My daughter is 4 (5 in June). She's always been spirited since being a baby. We had a couple of incidents at nursery where someone bit her as she had him in a headlock over a toy. And a couple other incidents but nothing major.
All seemed fine until about July time last year, although got worse when she started reception. We are constantly having aggressive outburts and I'm not sure what's causing them.
This is usually after being told off (which is quite frequent) as she doesn't listen and annoys the cats regularly too. We will ask her to go on the step or stop what she is doing and usually it ends it's being bit, hit, nipped, kicked or screamed at.
I've had things thrown at my head, I've been told that I'm hated. She has pulled me down the stairs when on the step when trying to get past. Last night she told her dad she wished he was dead. Tonight she told me she's going to punch me and kick me and break my arm. It's very regular.
We have spoke to the school she is fine there and they say we are doing everything right. I've tried the health visitor they said they are coming out then don't bother calling back (this is from October).
I've tried naughty step, calm out corner. We have a marbles jar for rewards, we have a sheet for breathing when angry. She has had stuff taken off her. It makes no difference at all. I'm at wits end.