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DS behaviour going dow

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firsttimer20 · 07/03/2022 10:08

DS is 5yo in a few weeks and in reception class. His behaviour was good up until the last few months.

He is friends with the three naughtiest boys in his class who all have discipline issues that result in them getting yellow and red cards which is the worst thing that can happen to a child in this school (eg, they punch even though they know it hurts others, use bad words and make the wrong choices in class ect). He used to have nice gentle friends but they've sort of fallen away and formed new friendships.

There have been a few instances where DS' class teacher has voiced concern that his behaviour is also going downhill.

I am concerned that his friend choices and what he's seeing in school with his friends' behaviour is normalising bad behaviour that he's now showing.

I'm unsure what I can do to encourage him to think about his friend choices.

I talk to him about each time his friends get a red or yellow card and how it made people feel.

I've also arranged playdates with better behaved kids.

Whilst I want him to stop playing with these naughty boys, his friendships with them only seem to be getting stronger.

My husband and I don't understand where this has come from. His sister is well behaved, he has a lovely relationship with her. Both me and DH are at home most of the time and he's doing well in his learning.

Whwt would you do?

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ihavechangedmyname54321 · 07/03/2022 14:49

Following. My DS is very similar and is still good friends with the “naughty” kids.

I will say, there’s a reason your DS wants to be friends with these kids. Mine is sensitive and shy, but equally has a naughty streak himself and finds naughty things hilarious. So I can see why he wants to be friends with the children that he is.

firsttimer20 · 07/03/2022 15:20

Yes mine is constantly testing the boundaries of what's acceptable and also really enjoys being silly. These other boys also enjoy being silly but their behaviour often spills into naughty behaviour which upsets children, teachers and also me when I've heard what they've done. Looking forward to more seasoned parents ideas on how to deal with it.

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