Do I need to be scared?

[Rosebel]

A while ago when my son was around 14 months old nursery flagged up concerns with his development. He is now almost 21 months and the concerns are still there.
At 14 months I was not terribly worried but I am now. He isn't walking yet but is pulling himself up. He isn't really talking yet either. He babbles lots and does say a few words but nothing like what seems "normal"
He plays with toys, waves, claps, loves music, crawls around playing with his cars etc but I'm still very worried.
I have older children (teenagers) one was a late walker and the other a late talker but not as far behind as he is. Also at this stage my DDs were both showing signs of being ready to potty train but my son is showing no signs at all.
I feel guilty. I was a SAHM with my older two but have to work now and I wonder if my return to work negatively affected him. Hes under the Senco at nursery and we're waiting for an appointment with the paediatric doctor.
I'm shitting myself. Mentally I'm not in a good place and the extra worry isn't helping. Honestly am I right to be worried? Is my little boy behind or okay?

Does he understand what you're saying to him? My dd wasn't saying tonnes at that age but pretty much nothing got past her and she was talking in long sentences not long after turning 2. It doesn't sound too worrying ITO social communication but the walking I agree is a bit behind and I think you should talk to a GP if you haven't already. Could just be one of those things but I think it warrants investigation. Don't panic. It is what it is and it's good that nursery are intervening. And please don't feel guilty. It sounds like he's at a good nursery and there's nothing wrong with the support and nurturing he's received. I wouldn't even worry about potty training right now. Sort everything else and you've got plenty of time to potty train x

Try not to be scared - easier said than done.
All children are different and some need more support in some areas, it doesn't always mean they will have lasting difficulties.
With the potty training don't worry at all, this can come much later. With the walking I use to find some children took longer to walk if they lived in a smaller house/apartment. The parents were rushing to get to and from work and didn't always have the time to encourage them walking into the nursery from the car or home.
Talking can also come at different times some children don't talk until their 3yrs.
It sounds like your nursery on the ball with trying to help and get you some support. Which is good 👍
Maybe ask them for some practical tips and things you could do at home to support your little one some more.
Try not to blame yourself or worry that because you went to work you've negatively affected him. Try to think that your lucky to have the support and experience of the nursery, to help you.

So much to fret about as a parent of a little one isn’t there! I feel for you OP. My ds didn’t say much till 21 months and then suddenly started saying phrases! I think it’s too early to frighten yourself. Plenty don’t really get into talking till 2 and it seems he enjoys other stuff. I also think girls might be earlier to the potty than boys- he isn’t behind in that regard :) Hope that provides some reassurance.