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20 month development ASD?

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liajay · 26/02/2022 23:55

Hello,

please excuse the long post. My son is 20 months and I have been worried about his development even after taking him to the pead and being assured he is fine with social and communication delay only. I still can’t help but wonder. Maybe it’s actually me who needs to get an evaluation.

Some background

⁃	Tip toes 50/50, mostly tip toes inside however won’t usually tip toe outside or with shoes on 
⁃	History of ear infections and glue ear, only cleared in September/October last year (hearing was like he was under water)
⁃	Limited waving only at mirror(sometimes)
⁃	speech consists of a lot of babbling and minimal words such as yeh, baba, papa, eeeeeh, ooooh and hey
⁃	 minimal pointing usually at book or when on FaceTime to dad, not often enough. 
⁃	Can copy what I do for example feeling a rock or leaf, blowing raspberries, kissing teddy, clapping or playing peekaboo or basic activity also plays peekaboos to us but won’t copy a wave
⁃	Enjoys playing with us, looking at book, building blocks 
⁃	Doesn’t bring us items to show 
⁃	Answers to name most of the time 
⁃	Happy to play alongside children but will also wonder off on his own
⁃	Extremely good eye contact with most people 
⁃	Follows instructions when asked most of the time for example “go to the bath” “follow mummy” “sit down” “come here”.
⁃	Reaches for objects himself and reaches to be picked up
⁃	Will find me when his show has ended to press play with eye contact and looking over (I guess his form of pointing)
⁃	Looks back at us when he runs really fast or waits for us to make sure we are looking before he goes down the slide
⁃	Understands No
⁃	Has tantrums however not meltdowns 
⁃	Very affectionate to people, however can be shy at times with new people.
⁃	Can use a tooth brush and spoon fork to feed himself
⁃	Is very aware and attentive of surroundings, where people are etc 
⁃	No repetitive rocking however likes to play with objects, throwing twirling and dropping them also like wheels and anything that spins but not to the point it’s a constant thing.(notice child care has a lot of these objects)
⁃	Is not obsessed with one object however moves from object to object can easily draw attention to something different 
⁃	Enjoys the same tv show, only recently started branching out 
⁃	Eats and sleeps well 
⁃	No sensitive to sounds, textures or smells
⁃	Will get hands dirty 
⁃	Recently started head banging tantrum however won’t last long 
⁃	Taps his head with fingers 
⁃	Doesn’t bring objects to show 

Some red flags and lots of positives, one very confused mum. Advice please?

OP posts:
Hannah654321 · 28/02/2022 17:00

He can do so much, just enjoy him, play with him, love him... there are SO many threads with people worrying about their children meeting milestones. All children develop at different rates, it doesn't mean anything is wrong. He is so little still and will be learning every day! I know it is hard to worry, I do too, but I think mumsnet doesn't help! It genuinely has given me so much anxiety over children's development that I only take it with a pinch of salt. Your 20 month old sounds lovely.

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