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20 month old heavy handed with dogs….advice?

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grcxo · 26/02/2022 19:50

i have two chihuahuas.
my son boy has always been so careful around them, until he hit about 19 months.
recently he’s became so heavy handed with them! he isn’t a heavy handed child with anything else, nor aggressive/heavy handed with other children.
i know he’s young and he doesn’t intentionally mean to hurt them, but he does.

i’ve caught him pulling them around the front room by their tails, their back legs, he throws blankets over them, throws toys at them etc.
i give him a STERN telling off every single time, i get the bottom lip back. but an hour later he’s back at it. one of the dogs is petrified of him. and backs herself into a corner.

it’s to the point where i’m having to put the dogs in their dog room under the stairs or outside every single time i want to leave the room/go upstairs etc.

i know he’s not doing it to be horrible, and he doesn’t understand that what he is doing is wrong. i don’t want to see my little dogs hurt, nor do i want them to eventually snap in defense!
but how can i get him to stop quick. i feel so bad on my puppies ! Sad

Just to add, i try not to give the dogs loads of attention after, just incase jealousy was a factor… i do however show him to be gentle and how to stroke them. to which i say ‘look, gentle’ which he does!!! then 30 minutes later he’s back to before.
i’m trying to persevere but is there anything else i can try?!?! please ?!?!

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Kite22 · 26/02/2022 23:45

Put your son in a playpen if you leave the room - even for a second.

You should never leave babies / toddlers / small children and dogs alone together - even small dogs like yours. Both dogs and small children are unpredictable.

ladydimitrescu · 27/02/2022 01:21

Stop leaving them alone at all.

grcxo · 27/02/2022 07:38

i appreciate your responses but this is what i’m already doing. my issue is even if i’m in the front room with them i literally need to sit with them the entire time.
unfortunately we have a very small front room and no room for a play pen. currently i’m putting the dogs away each time i’m walking amount of the room. but my dog backs into a corner where i can’t see them from the sofa so i literally have to sit with them the entire time. yesterday i was sat there for an hour!

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Jannt86 · 27/02/2022 08:21

He should NEVER be left alone with them. It's honestly just so quick if they do decide to go for him. My daughter was a similar age when my uncle had his elderly, grumpy dog in the same room as my daughter. She and I were both doing the right things. I was watching her and told her to stay away and she was doing. However she was toddling along and tripped into him and he just went for her in a split second and I'm pretty sure he had her head in his mouth. Luckily myself and quick thinking relatives pulled him off immediately and she was shocked but unhurt and from then on we didn't let him in the same room as her. If he'd been a more powerful dog or he'd really meant to hurt her (I think it was more of a warning really) then there would've been no stopping him. It made me realise how quick it can be. Watch your boy like a hawk near the dogs. Give a sharp' firm 'no we use kind hands' and take HIM to another room if he won't leave them alone and if the dogs are even remotely aggressive to him I wouldn't even be allowing the dogs near him even when you're watching. You need to take this seriously for the sake of your baby and the dogs as hard as it is x

MGee123 · 28/02/2022 09:13

He is too young to understand and it is totally unfair on the dogs to allow this to continue. They will eventually bite him and that could be a situation you can't recover from. Be responsible and keep them separate at all times for now. Baby in playpen or dogs or baby in another room. Start practising good behaviours with your son so he learns how to treat the dogs respectfully - controlled situations where you have hold of him and have your full attention on what is happening. He will learn how to behave around them through modelling your behaviours and positive reinforcement of his good behaviour but you must stop allowing him to terrorise your dogs until he is old enough to understand properly.

Genevie82 · 01/03/2022 19:03

Op, crate your dogs until he is much older and understands the rules - you can’t have toddlers and dogs in the same room it’s not fair on either x

Kite22 · 01/03/2022 19:19

even if i’m in the front room with them i literally need to sit with them the entire time

Well, yes.
If you have a dog / dogs and a baby or toddler or small child, that is what you do. Either separate them into different rooms / one in a cage or play pen, or you literally sit there with your hand hovering over his.

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