Normal for 11mth old to burst into tears at "no"?

[Jacksmybaby]

DS has taken to getting very upset when I tell him "no". I'm honestly not shouting/saying it loudly or aggressively, just trying to do it calmly and quietly but firmly enough so the meaning is clear from the tone. Have tried saying it less firmly but he then just giggles at me and carries on! I only say it when he's pulling at/fiddling with things like the DVD player, TV, washing machine etc, or things that could fall over on him. Is this reaction to be expected? This is my very first child disciplining experience so any tips or advice welcome!

My DD2 (17 months) throws herself on the floor when she's told no. She used to just cry but has escalated it after she realised crying was getting her nowhere.

I really wouldn't worry about, and would perhaps try distraction instead. If my dd2 starts crying I often point at nothing in particular and say "what's that?", if she stops crying and looks then I know it's not serious.

Totally normal imo. Just ignore the tantrums. As long as he isn't hurting himself just leave him to get on with it.

Normal. My 10 month old just laughs at me no matter how much I try to vary it. Shouting - laughs, stern tone - laughs, bellowing - laughs, quietly - laughs. I can see I am going to have trouble with this one...

Oh good, feeling much less like a bad mummy who is emotionally scarring her child now!

Oh thank goodness....I've only got to look at my DD (13 months)in that 'No' kind of way and she can see what's coming...and wham, she's on the floor with a full-blown tantrum, tears, the lot. All her little friends seem so placid....and obedient! Thought I was scaring the life out of her - but seems I've just got a gorgeous little monster with a mind of her own

My 9 month old daughter is the same. If I say no she bursts into tears immediately. Can't wait for the escalation as she gets older

Yes my dd used to ,she sticks her lip out and everything

ds is nearly 8 months and bursts into tears if his older sisters say no to him ! They are usually trying to stop him getting something he can't have now he's crawling. They say it quite firmly, obviously trying to sound like me, and it really upsets him !
I thought he was too young for tantrums but he cries and flings his arms up and down and its very hard to distract him out of it !

v. normal

one of my dd's is very well behaved, i kid you not, but on the rare occasion where she isn't ,saying no politely and firmly used to bring floods of tears.

(by contrast my other daughter virtually lived in time out and has always givem me the teenager treatment, i.e. couldn't give a monkeys and ignored me even if i shouted at her

My dd is ten months and I would not tell her 'no' - how does she know at that age what 'no' is??

At that age they are into exploring and are interested in everything! I don't think there is much point in sayng 'no'....all I do is keep my eye on her and make sure that she is not touching anything that she shouldn't....everything else is fair game! I said 'no' to dd1 from an early age (about 13 months) and all this did was make her more determined!! Am not bothering this time round.

Oh yes. Ds1 used to burst into tears whenever we said no. Bizarrely, he would then do exactly as we said and still does (he's 6 and hates the thought of being in trouble).

Ds2 came along and when we started saying no to him, just laughed. He's now almost 4 and still laughs/completely ignores us when we say no.

And there we were thinking we had managed to breed a new race of compliant children

Thanks all, starlight this is kind of what I was doing already (saying good boy when he stops then no again when he goes back to what he was doing), but will do even more so, with the clapping etc. How old is your DS? I agree at 11m he's not too young to understand - in fact the very fact he's reacting this way surely implies he knows he's being told off?!

My dd still does this occasionally and she's 3! . She does a fantastic display of stamping her feet, shouting "you've made me really upset, and sticking out her bottom lip a mile.

I know that doesn't help, but the picture in my mind just makes me smile!

hi starlight

ds does the whole trembling lower lip thing as well and did go through a long phase of bursting into tears when told not to do something, even though we praised and praised at good things! he is much better now and sometimes even listens . seems to be going through a "pleasing" phase so praise is doubly worth it, and claps himself and repeats whatever he gets praised for.

btw it started at around 10 months and he's now 18 months.

My dd (13 months) gets very sad and cries if you say 'no, she started doing this at 10 months. She really hates being in trouble, us being cross at all.

I've tried restricting 'no' to absolute emergencies (i.e. fingers in plug socket). Also do gentle 'no' with follow up 'good girl, well done etc.'

Have also tried to get dd1 to understand that she can't just say 'no' to dd2 all the time but must move her stuff!

It's more up to us to make things safe for her at this stage I think.

Absolutely normal, and desirable! It shows that she understands and you are having some kind of impact on her. Ds just looks at me with a "And who the hell do you think you are to be telling me no?" expression. Very different to his sisters!

Good points starlight and fondant. Occasionally DH/MIL etc say "no" to things I'm not bothered about and vice versa, prob should sit everybody down and agree a list of forbidden activities!