17 month milestones

[M0m23]

Help,
I feel like my son is behind with his milestones.
He doesn't respond to his name; he doesn't wave bye when appropriate... Like when someone else is leaving or we are.
He understands some words and phrases we say but not a great deal, he tends to enjoy running backwards and forwards or will pick up his flashcards but instead of looking at them he will flap them up and down.
He loves spinning things.

I'm not sure if I am just thinking too much into it or if there is something there.

Has anyone had this happen with there little one?

Anyone?

Hi mom23, we have spoken on another thread and our boys sound very similar except mine is 2 months younger. I called my HV because I was so worried today and it was getting on top of me. She spoke through things with me and they are hopefully going to come and see us or we go and see them at some point. Have you spoken to your HV? Xx

Hello,
Yes I have spoken to HV and they don't seem concerned.
I am going to try and contact them again when he is maybe over 18 months or 20months if still concerned to see if they can come out and observe him at home

What other worries was it you had?
Thanks for replying

My concerns were the same as you plus he doesn’t point 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m really trying to change how I think though because I’m wasting time worrying instead of living in the moment xx

It's difficult to tell – there's such a huge range with communication at this stage. I think by this age, you would generally expect to see some name response, but not necessarily if he's engrossed in doing something else (or if you've been testing his response lately – they're surprisingly good at working out when you're calling for no good reason!).

Does he point, or have another way of telling you he wants something or directing your attention to something interesting he's seen (a bus, a dog, etc.)?

You could also have a look at these developmental questionnaires: www.lakepediatrics.org/docs/ASQ%2015-16%20months.pdf (16 months) and www.lakepediatrics.org/docs/ASQ%2017-18%20months.pdf (18 months). That would give you some indication of where he is across a range of areas. Hopefully they will set your mind at ease, but if they raise concerns, they're the questionnaires most HVs use, so saying he's scoring in the black for this or that can sometimes help get the HV involved. Do check the scoring sheet at the back, though –they never expect 6 'yeses' in a section, and one or two scores in the grey isn't usually particularly worrying.

@skkyelark

It's difficult to tell – there's such a huge range with communication at this stage. I think by this age, you would generally expect to see some name response, but not necessarily if he's engrossed in doing something else (or if you've been testing his response lately – they're surprisingly good at working out when you're calling for no good reason!).

Does he point, or have another way of telling you he wants something or directing your attention to something interesting he's seen (a bus, a dog, etc.)?

You could also have a look at these developmental questionnaires: www.lakepediatrics.org/docs/ASQ%2015-16%20months.pdf (16 months) and www.lakepediatrics.org/docs/ASQ%2017-18%20months.pdf (18 months). That would give you some indication of where he is across a range of areas. Hopefully they will set your mind at ease, but if they raise concerns, they're the questionnaires most HVs use, so saying he's scoring in the black for this or that can sometimes help get the HV involved. Do check the scoring sheet at the back, though –they never expect 6 'yeses' in a section, and one or two scores in the grey isn't usually particularly worrying.

Hello, Sorry this link you sent isn't working?

Any update @M0m23 ? Just come across your thread in a Google search as my son who is 22 months, doesn't consistently respond to his name either. Called a speech therapist who didn't seem concerned. HVs are useless they just keep saying wait till 2 year check bla bla bla. Its so unnerving, my son isn't walking yet either which is another thing to worry about. HV has referred to physio so waiting on that. It's getting me really depressed and down thinking about it. I know I shouldn't feel like this but I can't help it. He's like yours, he will respond to instructions like if I say give me your dummy he will or drink some water and he will. But mostly I'm calling his name over and over and he doesn't turn around. Everywhere says this is an indicator of autism unless a hearing problem which it can't be if he's responding to instructions.

Hi any updates ? ❤️