Disciplining a 7 yo

[Ikkleme]

So this week I found out my daughter has been bullying a classmate at school. I'm mortified that she could do something like this. She's normally a really good kid.
School dealt with it by taking away her lunchbreak and making her do a sort card for said child. And a letter on kindness.
At home I've taken away her lego sets, tablets and cleared out the sweet cupboard. Also stopped her out of school activities immediately last week.
How long do people punish for? Do I gradually let her have items back. When she asks If she can do something fun I say no and she asks why I tell her you know why.
We're on day 5 now. She's in holiday club for half term apart from Friday which we have a precooked activity.

WHY did she bully? The bullied child is the victim no doubt but a child who bullies us also trying to communicate too. Is she unhappy or insecure at school/home? Did she simply feel peer pressure? If so it's important to talk to her about how to be assertive with our friends when we know that something isn't right. Punish as you see fit but if you don't get to the root of why she did it and help her understand why what she did was wrong then you could lock her in a jail cell and she'll probably still do it again. It probably depends on what she exactly did too xx

Have you asked her what happened, and why she did it? What did she say?

Was she the only one bullying or part of a group? How is she at school, does she like it there?

Punishment and discipline are two different things. Every child needs discipline, not punishment. Boundaries, but clear explanation of expectations.

School has done the punishment. If I were you, I would focus on why she did it.

Another vote here for trying to understand why, the bully is usually upset about something themselves and the bullying is the expression of that. Is she being bullied herself perhaps? Is there something at home / school / friendship group that is driving this?

Personally, I would stop all punishment now and focus on understanding why. It's important she understands that it's not acceptable to bully or be unkind but if you can't unearth what the problem is I suspect it will rear it's head again either through more bullying or another behaviour.