8 year old gets so angry

[purpleme12]

My child is 8
She gets so angry
Angry when things don't go exactly how she wants them or when I'm telling her to do something for example
I don't believe she's misbehaving per se I think she might truly struggle with it
I have tried all the usual suggestions but she still gets angry in the heat of the moment and ends up kicking off and screaming.
I don't react to this. I know this is the right thing because I believe she can't see the wood for the trees in this moment and when I've tried to use a stern tone in that moment it just escalates it.
But I find it so draining.
She says her brain gets angry. Sometimes I think she truly doesn't want to be like this with me and she almost always says sorry but then it happens again. And I think sometimes perhaps she is actually sorry but can't stop? But surely she must be able to stop?
Is anyone else's child like this?
I don't understand why she gets so angry so often and at such little things

Yes, children don’t have full control of their emotions. My 9 year old still has occasional major tantrums but they are becoming much less frequent.

How often does she get very angry and can she control herself in school?

Yes she's almost perfect in school

But at home at the minute we hardly get through a day without her getting angry
And often more than once
The other day she hit me. It didn't hurt but that's not the point. Although that is not a regular problem it was a one off thankfully.
I don't know how to get her to regulate it
I don't know if she'll get better?
I feel exhausted from fielding it

Have you read the book - The Book you wish your parents had read- by Phillipa Perry - i found it useful. There is a chapter about how to deal with situations like this.

No I haven't
Guess I'll try that

I didn't think children were this angry

I can relate to this, my 8 year old has been like this since a very young age on and off, he’s such a lovely boy but does keeps me on my toes, his anger is getting out of control it’s defiantly not normal iv tried everything in the past and feel I’m failing. He’s now having time from football as his behaviour is awful and it’s not fair on the other kids he’s constant screaming at the kids if he gets hurt or if he doesn’t kick the ball properly ect. school he’s not so bad but lately getting outbursts. I’m stuck to what to do except try drs appointment again

@And22 have you been to doctors before about it?
What did they say/do?

Hi, I'm going through this now. How did you get on?