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can someone slap me please, im an ungrateful cow

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lionbeast · 31/12/2007 11:41

just feeling sad today really,i know its new years eve aswell
dh has gone back to work,he's been off since xmas eve and hes off again tomorrow and then its only 3 days till the weekend, and i know must people don't get this long off etc

but just feel a bit "flat" now that xmas is over iykwim?

hate dh going back to work
i know i should be thinking at least im not at work im sitting her with my beautiful dd who is such a happy easy going baby, in our lovely house and had a really nice 1st xmas with dd.
and feel i have no right to feel sad about anything and im an ungrateful cow
whats up with me ?

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Shitemum · 31/12/2007 11:42

post xmas let down....
Plan yourself a treat for the New Year

kiskidee · 31/12/2007 11:45

normal.

take dd out for a long walk if the weather is good. it will while the hours away, give you some distraction and the fresh air should be invigorating.

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lionbeast · 31/12/2007 11:46

yes sm i think its some kind of post xmas blues, i feel bad about feeling bad ffs

great idea about planning something to look forward to thanks

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alarkaspree · 31/12/2007 11:47

Oh I hate dh going back to work too. He has been off work for a whole week and I have forgotten that I am perfectly capable of looking after the children by myself, and even enjoying it.

Don't give yourself a hard time about it. Do something really nice with dd this afternoon and wait for the feeling to go away.

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lionbeast · 31/12/2007 11:52

yes thanks kiskidee im going to do that, wonder if the libary open today?

also i wanted to tell you kiskidee that im helping out at a local bf workshop [antenatal class] following on from our conversation on the breatfeeding boards

i used to be kittenbaby before i became a lion beast lol if that jogs your memory?

basically what im doing is going to show other mums to be how i bf and try and anwser any questions ?im trying to repay all the help i had when struggling
feel a tad nervous but it should be good

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glaskham · 31/12/2007 11:53

i'm like this after a long weekend with DH let alone xmas time off!!...luckily dh hasn't been able to get much time off around xmas this year, but if he gets a couple of days off, or even a holiday i hate him going back to work, i enjoy speding time with him and the kids all together as a family, even if we dont do anything special!!.....so i know exactly how you feel....just get out for a walk, have a look in the sales or something, take your mind off it all!!

kiskidee · 31/12/2007 12:07

surely the library is open today. just google your local council/library and ruing up to make sure.

excellent for helping out in the local community. have you thought of doing a mother/peer supporter course? ABM, BfN and I think LLL all do their own versions. it is vitually free and for mums who have bf a child for at least 6 months.

kiskidee · 31/12/2007 12:08

ring and virtually

yup, i knew who you were.

lilmissmummy · 31/12/2007 12:10

dp went back to work today too and I am still in my pjama's and feeling sorry for myself- I have been on the phone to him already today but I just want him to come home. Its not that I cant cope its just I miss him when he is at work!

I have just re read my post and realised how sad that is, so now going to get dressed and get my lo some lunch!

Keep your chin up- we all feel like this we just have to grin and bare it til this evening!

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lionbeast · 31/12/2007 13:36

well had a nice walk to the shop and had lunch and am feeling a bit brighter kiskidee when dd was about 5-5 and a half months she had one or two bottles a day
as i wanted to try her on them before introducing food.
so she wasnt ex bf for 6 months
i am still bf her now though and i have no plans to stop
is the peer supporter course only for thoses that ex bf for 6 months

have you done it? and which one did you do ?

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kiskidee · 31/12/2007 13:39

no, those bottles don't matter. as long as you have bf for at least 6 months.

I completed the ABM Mother Supporter course last May and plan to start the BF Counsellor course in January. The MS course counts as the first of 8 (or is it 9) modules of the BF Counsellor course, but you can stop there if you want.

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lionbeast · 31/12/2007 14:22

yes im definatley going to look into that in the newyear

the only thing i worry about is that im not sure my experience is a good one to promote?as i did things like feeding 3o times a day and feeding virtually from 6pm till 11pm. and even in the v v earlydays i fed dd from 9pm til 5am which was a bit of a killer,only did this 4 times though,soon learnt how to bf lying down so although it wasnt an easy experiece is a real one at least

and i have a lot of experience with bf family/hv issues

how do you do the voluntering by phone ? and going to peopls houses?
what happens do the calls gt diverted to your home phone or sometype of base?
how long is the course? and thn the counsellor course?

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kiskidee · 31/12/2007 16:26

the kind of experience you have is not the main factor in supporting a mother. it is to encouragement/support mums with bf and weaning information that is based on evidence instead of, well, the tosh that they get off family, friends and some HCPs. You would also have enough knowledge to identify the more common problems and problems and in this case refer the mother to a trained bf counsellor as the course does not prepare you to give advice and counselling.

I also had a rocky start and went on to bf successfully. that is what counts.

You can support in many ways: like you are already doing antenatally which I think is one of the fabbest ways, at baby groups, just to let your friends and family know that you are there for them, anyway you can think of really. I have let my new and more clued up hv know that i have the qualification and that I will happily speak to any mums who are bfing. You don't do the phone lines until you are a qualified counsellor.

The Mother Supporter course probably takes about 10 -15 hrs to do in your own time. A lot of the questions you can already answer by reading posts on MN. The others with a good bf book in hand, you can find all the other answers. Most of the answers are short answers (a phrase or a sentence and some are a short paragraph) YOu are asked to complete a module in 3 months. the counsellor course has 8 or 9 modules. but you don't have to commit to do that one if you decide to do the MS one.

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lionbeast · 03/01/2008 16:18

hi kiskidee sorry for the delay in my reply but i lost this thread,i forgot it was under mt xmas blues thread lol

what would i do just call them and say im interested

im writing a list of my top tips for next thu,ill post them to you on the feeding boards to see what you think when ive done

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soapdodger · 03/01/2008 20:38

if you have CAT, cat me. otherwise, email me on knifewieldingtoddler at gmail dot com.
just phone or email their training address which is on the ABM website.

you have to become a member first and be a member for a few months before you can apply to train. the yearly subscription fee is £17 i think and the training fee is a tenner. great deal, i think#

ps: excuse the silly namechange

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