The way my child is spoken to..

[Bumblebee1119]

So this is something that has always happened and caused a number of arguments but I am hitting a brick wall!
So for about 6 years I have been a single parent. My sister and my nieces have helped me out with childcare whilst I go to work or have a social event. So my daughter spends time with my family.
But I hate the way they talk to my daughter.. and as a result my daughter thinks this is acceptable to talk to others like this and it really isn't!
She isn't spoken to like a child or corrected and guided. She is spoken to like an adult! My sister and nieces will pick arguments with her, wind her up and bicker. She has no choice but to stick up for herself!

When playing role play my daughter always takes on a aggressive character. Yesterday I said to my new partner I think this is because of the way my sister talks to her.
So we are at my dads for dinner tonight with everyone. My daughter said something to my sister and my sister who thinks she is funny responded to her as if she was an adult and well just like a bully.. it was a pretend argument kind of thing but they are just not nice nurturing people to her!
They will talk all nicely to other people's children but mine they constantly pick on her.

I always feel like I am having to tell my daughter off but when it's me and her she is the nicest sweetest little girl. I feel like they are dragging her down. I talk to her about how we should behave and talk to each other but I think my family are so over powering she has no choice.

Tonight my 17 year old niece was winding her up! This is a 17 year old niece who works in a nursery and tells me about all these adoring kids! But to her own cousin she is so horrible.

I'm so fed up! I'm so upset! As I have said this has caused arguments when I've asked them to stop but nothing changes..

What do I do?

I feel like I need to pull in the reins now and not let my daughter spend time with them. I don't need their help for childcare anymore but she has been spending time with them at their request. But I feel like saying no now. She loves spending time with her aunty, but only I know that it's wrong, she doesn't see it as being wrong environment.

What would you do if you was in my situation???

How old is your dd?

Can you give a couple of examples of what they are saying?

My daughter is 6.

It's more the tone of how they speak to her. It's very hard to describe over message.

Imagine if someone stood there saying. No, whatever, go away, stop it, don't do that (when she not doing anything wrong). That's the tone and attitude.

For example yesterday my daughter was singing. Stop singing the niece was saying. So I said to my daughter let's just stop now and me and you can sing when we get home (trying to keep the peace) a minute later my 17 year old niece is sat there singing! So I've said to her I've told daughter to stop so please don't do it back if she isn't allowed. The response was... well she was doing it so why can't I? Yes she done it a minute ago but it was dealt with so why are we winding her up??

My niece is very immature but my sister who is 34 is exactly the same.

So example of my sister.

Daughter is playing with a
Bouncy ball on the floor trying to get it in the bowl. Ball rolls off and daughter asks auntie to get it for her. Auntie spins round and looks at my daughter and says no, you get it. Full of attitude and swagging herself from side to side. Now I know she joking and does Go get the ball. But my 6 year old thinks this is serious because this is how she is responded to all the time.. my sister will keep saying no till my daughter then runs off because she is upset.

Why have they got to wind her up and make her feel like this??!

It's like other things my daughter asks for. They are going to say yes to but they like to spend 5 minutes winding her up before saying yes.