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Things my 2 year old will eat… do I need to call the HV or is this normal.

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Syra · 29/01/2022 17:46

Hi all, just looking for some perspective on whether this is just a very fussy toddler and I just need to ride this phase out or whether I should be looking to get proper help from my heath visitor or a dietitian.

Here’s the list of safe foods. I try new things alongside these most days but it all ends up
In the bin.

Toast and peanut butter
Toast and cream cheese
Shreddies
Pastry pin wheels
Watermelon
Lamb curry mixed with rice
Bolognese if I mix it with rice
Risotto
Pizza
Fruit pouches.
Savoury muffins (homemade with carrot and courgette)
Wraps (I make a sauce from roasted veg and grill it so it kind of looks like a pizza to be honest)

God writing it down, it feels awful seeing how little he eats. My older child ate/eats everything I put in front of him so this is All very new (and scary!)

He will also eat any biscuit or cake without hesitation given the opportunity.

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WorriedMama101 · 29/01/2022 23:28

He honestly sounds like he's eating fine. What is he not eating?

Syra · 30/01/2022 08:46

He won’t eat any fruit other than watermelon. No vegetables at all. No pasta or potatoes of any kind. No chicken or fish.

If we go out for dinner and there’s no pizza on the menu he will eat literally nothing. He will only eat my rice dishes. Bread and butter and that’s it.

I know that’s not the most important thing in the world but I’m just wondering how worried to be about it.

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Jannt86 · 30/01/2022 11:41

It sounds like you might be fussing him too much.just make whatever you fancy for meals and if he wants it he wants it and if not 'well that's shame because it's all there is tonight' Don't turn it into a control battle, don't worry about him eating everything, he will eat when he's hungry. Have fruit and veg out in a bowl for him to graze on as much of the day as possible and avoid the drama and yiu won't get drama back. X

MargaretThursday · 30/01/2022 12:27

That's twelve things. And most of them are pretty good.
That's six times as many as dd2 would eat at that age. Grin

The only thing she ate consistently well was tinned sweetcorn, so if she'd had a few days of eating little I'd do a tin for her.
She discovered eating when she was about 5 or 6yo.
She's now a teen and a little more faddy than she was at 5/6yo but still eats most things.

Don't worry. Just make sure you offer a mixture of what they'll eat and new things.

Syra · 30/01/2022 14:49

Thank you! It’s good to get some Outside perspective. I think I do stress too much about it Blush I’ll do my best to chill out a bit.

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Jannt86 · 30/01/2022 20:19

@Syra

Thank you! It’s good to get some Outside perspective. I think I do stress too much about it Blush I’ll do my best to chill out a bit.
It's honestly one of the most stressful things to feel like you can't even get your baby to eat I totally get it. However just remember that this is exactly the age where they're learning how to exert free will and they will make literally everything a battle ground if you let them. That's why you have to take the battling out of it IMHO. Just provide plenty of food options and keep an eye on his growth if you're worried but reality is most kids will eat what they need xx
LotsOfTrees · 30/01/2022 22:03

Sorry to jump in but I’d love to know @MargaretThursday whether you just ‘waited it out’ or if anything else made a difference? Feeling stressed about my DS.

MargaretThursday · 30/01/2022 22:19

@LotsOfTrees

Sorry to jump in but I’d love to know *@MargaretThursday* whether you just ‘waited it out’ or if anything else made a difference? Feeling stressed about my DS.
@LotsOfTrees

I waited it out. Made sure she had something she would eat even if it was only sweetcorn.

But I don't subscribe to the "they'll eat when they're hungry" because I (and my dd would have too) would win on that. I would rather and am capable of not eating if I don't like the food.
I also have food issues from being made to eat certain foods I didn't like as a child, so I don't agree with making a child eat.

What I did was:

Provide a plate of small amount of a variety of food (they can always ask for seconds) and make sure there is something that they will eat on the plate, even if it's only small.
If they don't eat anything just take it away without commenting.
You can make them want to eat something by making it fun (my mum got me eating sprouts by telling me they were fairy cabbages), but don't expect them to try everything.

Have healthy snacks around. I went for carrot sticks, bread sticks and that sort of thing. Leave them where they can get at them. It gives them some control.

if they say they're not hungry then assume they're right.
if they say they don't like it, then don't force it. I don't eat what I don't like-children are allowed tastes too.

And if they do like something new, don't then feed it them 3 times a week because you're so relieved they're eating something new.

Don't withhold treats until they've finished the plate and if they eat the meal in an odd order don't worry.
With dd1 I used to wonder why parents let their children eat the treats before the sandwiches in packed meals. With dd2 (once she was a bit older!) I discovered why. If I insisted she ate the sandwich first, then she ate nothing. if I just left her she ate the cake, then the fruit, then the sandwich.

Don't make them stay up at the table while everyone else is finishing after a reasonable go at the food.

Another thing I did when she was small was if she'd eaten nothing, then sometimes I'd send her off to play and put the plate of food somewhere where she could reach it herself. About half the time she'd then eat some of it while playing.

And repeat to yourself "it's a phase."

I have 3 dc. DD1 ate everything as a baby or toddler. She then was quite ill aged 8yo and went off nearly everything. She only started trying more things when she was 18yo, having had 10 years of surviving on a limited diet.
DD2 ate nothing, then as she got older started trying more and now eats reasonably well.
Ds ate well, and still does, but has never been particularly keen on meat. He has a piece when we have roast, but mostly has veg.

It really was nothing I did between them. It was personality and likes rather than me causing it. So don't worry. He'll eat fine when he's a bit older. Just try and not make a thing of it, and he'll come round.

blyn72 · 30/01/2022 22:27

He sounds fine to me, many two year olds wouldn't eat what he eats. I expect there are veg in the bolognese and curry. Please don't worry, he is doing well for his age.

LotsOfTrees · 30/01/2022 22:27

Thank you @MargaretThursday. This is similar to advice I’ve read and been given. It’s just so hard to trust that one day it’ll work out!

Syra · 30/01/2022 22:27

@LotsOfTrees this is great advice, thank you.

I am definitely guilty of making something 3 times in a week because he’s eaten it once. I’ll hold back on that.

Also I really love the point about leaving healthy snack within their reach and it giving them the control. The desire to desire to be in control and get their own way is so huge at this age!

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Syra · 30/01/2022 22:27

@LotsOfTrees this is great advice, thank you.

I am definitely guilty of making something 3 times in a week because he’s eaten it once. I’ll hold back on that.

Also I really love the point about leaving healthy snack within their reach and it giving them the control. The desire to desire to be in control and get their own way is so huge at this age!

How’s your ds doing now ? Has things improved ? ❤️

teaandkittehs · 22/07/2024 15:35

I'm not quite convinced they will just eat when they are hungry, as they like to test boundaries and sometimes refusal is part of that! But if they don't eat dinner, they wake you at 2am screaming in hunger, so I tend to be more adventurous at lunchtime with my little one and accept at times that dinner might have to be a tried and tested favourite. She is a pretty good eater though so far at 19 months so it's not much of a problem so far luckily, but she will totally reject stuff at times and if it's at dinner time I'll then make emergency omelette or defrost some of the mac and cheese with Spinach that i got the recipe for from a very stupidly named book called What Mummy Makes, it has lots of child friendly recipes in it! Keep offering other stuff, mine loved Brocolli then threw it for a while and now it's 50/50 what she will do with it. . .

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