Not following simple instructions

[katerosexox]

Exactly how it sounds. I hear it's very common for a toddler to understand pretty much everything but not speak much. But my 2.2 year old is the complete opposite.. he doesn't understand much at all, and can't really follow any commands but he's quite chatty. He is pretty repetitive with the words that he does say for example he will tell you the colours of absolute everything all day long. But if I was to ask him if he wants a snack or can I have a cuddle anything else there's no response.. like he doesn't understand me..

personally I would get this checked out . It may be ok but I am not sure if telling you colours of everything but not understanding and not having any receptive chat could be a concern. Hopefully all will be wellx

I would also see your HV or GP about this – you're right that it's an unusual pattern of development, which might just be a personal quirk, but is worth looking in to.

Does he use his speech to get things he wants (food, drink, toys, trip to the park, whatever) or to share things with you (bus! dog! etc. to tell you he's seen something exciting, for example)? Does he point at things, again either to tell you he wants it or to make sure you've also seen it?

If you want to get a sense of his communication overall for his age, you could have a look at the ASQs for 24 and 27 months (although obviously being not quite 'in the white' for the 27 month one wouldn't be surprising for a 26 month old). You can find them at portsmouth.tricare.mil/Portals/130/24%20month%20asq.pdf and www.socfc.org/SOHS/Disabilities%20Mental%20Health/ASQ/ASQ%203%2027%20Months.pdf, but make sure you check the scoring sheet at the end –they don't expect a typically developing child to actually be doing everything.

@skkyelark

I would also see your HV or GP about this – you're right that it's an unusual pattern of development, which might just be a personal quirk, but is worth looking in to.

Does he use his speech to get things he wants (food, drink, toys, trip to the park, whatever) or to share things with you (bus! dog! etc. to tell you he's seen something exciting, for example)? Does he point at things, again either to tell you he wants it or to make sure you've also seen it?

If you want to get a sense of his communication overall for his age, you could have a look at the ASQs for 24 and 27 months (although obviously being not quite 'in the white' for the 27 month one wouldn't be surprising for a 26 month old). You can find them at portsmouth.tricare.mil/Portals/130/24%20month%20asq.pdf and www.socfc.org/SOHS/Disabilities%20Mental%20Health/ASQ/ASQ%203%2027%20Months.pdf, but make sure you check the scoring sheet at the end –they don't expect a typically developing child to actually be doing everything.

Thankyou for that! After doing that you can definitely see where the problem is he was in the black section for communication and personal and social, in fact he scored absolutely nothing at all on personal and social☹️ and only 10 on communication..

Glad it was helpful. I'd mention the ASQ results to the HV or GP, then – sometimes people find their concerns are taken more seriously that way. I suppose it makes it objective rather than just 'worried mum'.