What to do with a 4 year old who has started wetting themself?

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At school, never at home.

Scool havent commented, just send wet clothes home in a bag.
kid says that they say no when she wants to go to loo?

I would speak to the teacher first and also try to find out if something is worrying your child. I have had major problems with my 5 yr old son who started pooing himself at school on a virtually daily basis. His headteacher and class teacher were very helpful and patient and helped us to work through it. I must admit though that it had a lot to do with anxiety over issues relating to his father. (We seperated a while ago and the whole thing has been really messy) Hope this helps

DD went through this recently and it was down to a urine infection. The infection meant that she wasn't able to "hold". As soon as she started on anti-biotics the accidents stopped. She was fine at home as well, but I think that's because she was able to run to the loo quickly as soon as she needed to.

Hm bini that is very interesting, as the childs parents have seperated recently.
I think that maybe it is more likely to be something to do with getting engrosed in work and school stuff.
Trouble is that the mother feels very responsible for the problem and i kind of disagree and think that if it is happening at school only, it should be tackled by parent and school, not just the mother on her own.
Have suggested that she talks to school and works through it with them.
Allot going on in the social background of the childs life, its a shame.

I felt responsible too, like I was doing something wrong. Was also worried about my son being picked on because other kids noticed too. Definitely best to work with the school. Do the school know about the seperation? I have found telling them whats going on to be helpful because then they are aware of how to deal with the situation (wouldn't have been helpful to get cross with ds when it was anxiety around his father doing something to me)

I am going crazy, my daughter is 5 nxt wk and has been wetting everyday at school. Initially she had a urine infection but now thats cleared and it still happens. School not happy and have asked me to take her to a clinic for wetting!!! Thing is when she stays with dad twice a yr she is dry. My hubby is not happy and says its laziness but i think its emotional ie lack of contact with dad, new baby in our house, starting school etc. I have stopped pull ups apart from school trips to save embarassment or chapped legs. I dont know what else to do to encourage her to stop.