Help with behaviours

[Werdna83]

Hi all,

This is my first post so apologies in advance for it being long or if I miss anything out.

My son is 30 months, 80% of the time he is very well behaved and a great child (apart from an unhealthy obsession that has developed with a tablet computer over a period of covid isolation).

Unfortunately the other 20% of the time I do worry about his behaviour. Recently he has been scratching and biting quite a lot but it doesn't appear to be out of frustration, he laughs and laughs and seems to think it is part of play. He recently started to understand happy/sad but even explaining that after it happens doesn't seem to help much. He has what I would consider normal tantrums, don't last too long and although he might throw things sometimes it's not at anyone.

His speech also isn't great although he does know a lot of words and will talk in 2 or 3 word sentences but not a lot of the time. His words are also quite hard to understand. We have been referred to speech therapist and have to call back in March if we are concerned. I feel like he understands a lot more than he let's on and when he appears not to listen he is simply ignoring.

He freaks out at a few things such as showers, hair washing (bath or shower) and even if he has to get his feet measured. He doesn't mind getting his hair wet in the swimming pull though.

He also doesn't seem to understand boundaries, we were in a soft play area today and he kept jumping on other people who were already on their ground playing with their own kids. I didn't really think of this as odd but the looks they gave me made me think maybe I am wrong with that one.

I guess I am just looking to see if anyone else has had these experiences or can offer any advice/support.

Thanks

He also doesn't seem to understand boundaries, we were in a soft play area today and he kept jumping on other people who were already on their ground playing with their own kids. I didn't really think of this as odd but the looks they gave me made me think maybe I am wrong with that one

It's been a while since I was in a soft play but I would have been happy with that, ever likely they were giving you looks. What did you do when he's done that?

Thanks for the response.

I lifted him away from the situation because the other adults clearly didn't want it to be happening but he didn't understand why and just wanted to go back to them. He got a bit upset when I said no and took himself to the exit and we left.

Does he go to any childcare @Werdna83? Have they raised any concerns?

He's at the top of the age range for the MChat Test but I think it's worth doing just to see what his risk of ASD is.

I'd also do this progress checker for his speech and understanding, just to check that he is where he should be

Thanks Bunny,

I did the test and he came out low risk. He certainly has some querks but nothing concerning from that test.

He does go to nursery and they have not raised any concerns at all although these days it's difficult with covid as we have never really had the chance to go into the nursery and see him interacting with the other kids. But they have assured us they have no concerns.

I'm no expert on speech or anything but just wanted to say that:

He freaks out at a few things such as showers, hair washing (bath or shower) and even if he has to get his feet measured. He doesn't mind getting his hair wet in the swimming pull though.

is all IME quite common in that age range. 2 is a big age for strange fears and phobias. ie lots of them hate hand dryers, and hair washing, but usually they grow out of it. My daughter was like this at his age but now 4 is fine with it all.