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4 Year Old Hitting Behavior

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Abigail333 · 06/01/2022 13:17

I'm mortified,
My little has been a tough cookie but in the past year, he has developed hitting when he is asked to change an activity or I'd he just plain doesn't want to do something and now he has began doing this in nursery and to teachers and now they are wanting to talk to an agency which I am heartbroken about because I was really hoping it could be handled at home. I'm feeling a little defeated and useless as a parent.

When we have a hitting episode, I call him over when he calms down and talk to him about how hitting and kicking is bad etc when he's angry and I get a blasé "I'm sorry" but I never feel like its being taken in.
We've watched all the videos, we have talks after each lashing out episode but it doesn't seem to be working.

We are introducing routine charts again to help him know routines as I think he's got use to us becoming lax over the past year or so and feels like he's ruling the roost in a hope this can hopefully calm him down and any changes to routine won't be such a shock.

Can I please get some ideas or suggestions to try to hopefully rein this in. Any help would be great!

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BunnyRuddington · 07/01/2022 07:25

Hello @Abigail333. Just wondering what agency the Nursery want to involve? Has their SENCO assessed him at all?

Abigail333 · 07/01/2022 07:52

The nursery have stated they want to involve a "multi agency" to help with his behaviour but also while he can talk and understands a he'll of a lot for his age, his pronunciation isn't the best for his age and I believe there is another agency who they are bringing in to help with his routines as they too think sudden change in activities May be startling him, so I'm guessing it will be several depts working together to try and fix everything at once.
I'm assuming they maybe thinking his communication skills could possibly be part of the issue for the lashing out.

Sadly parents learn their kids talking and can understand them but I keep forgetting that others might not be able to catch onto it and it could be making him agitated :(

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BunnyRuddington · 07/01/2022 08:53

Personally I wouldn't be upset about Nursery involving support for him that will help him.

If he does need any additional support it's much better that this is in place before he starts school as it will help him to settle in more quickly Thanks

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