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changing nappies

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vick34 · 23/12/2007 11:15

I have a 20 month old boy and he hates his nappy being changed, i understand that this is quite normal and that most babies roll around when being changed. Most of the time i can't get Oliver to lie down to change him,(i can do it whilst he is standing up for the wet ones but not for the dirty ones!) he screams and cries and the whole situation gets totally out of hand as he gets upset and i get upset. I have tried changing him in front of the tv, giving him things to hold/play with, peekaboo, bribing him (which i dont think he yet understands!). HELP! I am having to use some force to control him and i don't like it.

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frazzledbutcalm · 23/12/2007 11:25

Sorry but i think force is the only answer. He needs to understand that some things just have to be done. Maybe i'm hard/harsh but there's time to play games and time for necessities.

brusselbeansprouts · 23/12/2007 11:27

I used to rest my leg across ds's torso and basically pin him down. I used my very firm voice and wouldn't plead with him, just told him that we needed to do this now and then we could do something else.

It is only a phase but it's a very frustrating (and potentially messy) one!!

DavidTennantsMistress · 23/12/2007 11:29

I squeeze DS between my legs on the floor seems to keep him where he is and say give mummy a minute. seems to be working at the mo - if he does fidget then he has a firm NO nearly finished then a cuddles after and he runs off to play again.

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vick34 · 23/12/2007 11:31

Thank you for the very quick response. Never used Mumsnet before! I have to train myself to not feel quilty about using such force i know i am not really hurting him x Thanks again have a great Xmas x

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DavidTennantsMistress · 23/12/2007 11:32

ooh you should def stick around it's a fab place to be! good for tips and support - and a giggle as well. hope he settles down for you thou.

nannynick · 23/12/2007 17:54

Agree with the others... there are times when things have to be done, so force is needed.

Welcome to Mumsnet vick34, do stick around and post as often as you like. You will find this place to be full of advice.

mummymagic · 23/12/2007 18:02

Agree with others that yes, you will prob need to pin down but my tip is: don't change nappy while you are pinning him down. Instead keep saying 'stay there' while you 'force' and then when he stops wriggling give him the praise and lovely silly distracting stuff - and then change when he stays there of his own accord.

You need him to learn that he must 'stay there' of his own accord while you change his nappy. But yes, dont feel guilty for a firm voice (and prob some force) time.

(and welcome to Mumsnet )

julantal · 23/12/2007 18:04

give the little one something to do while he lays down a string pull toy above his head to pull on when you lie hime under it to change him give him something uniquies to look at or touch when you are changing him ie a braclet, watch, something really silly. I also say to my monster "hey, do you want mommy to tellyou a story?" or "sing a song" sometimes it works.. good luck and if that doesnt use lots of force and hold your tongue until it's over-- keep reassuraing him whos in charge!!!

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