Hi. Any thoughts / comments most welcome!
My 5 year old daughter spends most of the time at my parents due to my ex and ex's family being a bit of a liability! They love having her and like teaching her things to help at school. Not major, jjst a little pushy which I'm ok with as they did this with me and it really helped.
When she's with me, she's not very keen to follow instructions such as getting ready. She likes to slap, kick and bite me, burps and pumps. She finds this funny. I'm quite chilled out about this but do tell her no everytime and give her warnings she will be going on time out if she pushes too far.
I let her use an old phone to watch youtube and threaten to take this away when she doesn't do as she is told. This seems to always work.
Ideally I wouldn't need to threaten.
My issue is when I'm at my parents who don't like her using any games consoles. They are quite strict so when she burps or pumps, this is major and they get really annoyed and tell her off.
My 5 year old likes to scream also which sends them over the edge. I was there with her yesterday and took her for a couple of time outs. The more time outs, the longer she has to stay there, but does improve her behaviour.
My dad told me not to take her for another time out, so I left it, but then she worked herself for him and my mam.
When I was leaving yesterday I said don't expect her to behave brilliantly or listen, to try get them to not get so wound up, but he said she needs to be told when she's misbehaving.