I wonder if anyone who has a young child who rages has any advice on what else we could do.
He is now nearly six and it’s been going on for three years. He gets into rages. They’re not just temper tantrums and they can last for sometimes over an hour. Usually at night so I know tiredness is a trigger, usually started by not being able to get his own way about something.
During the rage he will hit, spit, pull hair, destroy items, throw things, scream, scratch, pinch. He’ll follow us around the house, hurt his older brother so he is crying too, it’s an extremely difficult situation to manage. In terms of behaviour elsewhere he is perfect. Completely passive at school. Will follow all the rules, is the top of his class, his teacher adores him. He puts a lot of pressure on himself when he tries to do any work, be it creative or simple educational stuff that’s supposed to be fun. Will also tantrum if he thinks what he has done is not good enough.
I have had some classes in how to manage his rage but I’m thinking I might need a refresh as tonight was probably the worst his been. I remember last time a lot of it was avoiding triggers and I think last night we allowed screen time quite late which has ended up being a huge trigger.
If anyone can relate I’d love to know what you’ve tried. What has worked? Or even some encouragement that this is a phase and he won’t still be doing this in five years time. I’m honestly scared he’s going to throw something heavy at my face and knock my teeth out. That’s how bad it got tonight.