So I’m really at a loss with my oldest son he’s 6 1/2 and he just does not listen. Me and my partner (his dad) have always practised gentle parenting offering him choices, using the right language being kind ect I’ve never raised my voice to him ever the worst I’ve ever done is changed the tone of my voice slightly. We use time to calm down once he’s reached 3 warnings to which he sits on for a couple minuets and then we have a very calm conversation about why he was asked to go on a time to calm down. We always cuddle after and reassure him we love him. But none of this is making any difference with him
Some examples are if he asks to play a game and we’re busy I always tell him we will just get what we’re doing done and we will play the game. But if it’s not done when he wants he makes silly noises and just dosent accept that we have housework/ another new born baby to deal with first.
He also really likes making things like cars and stuff with Lego and geomags he always wants to show and and I always give him the opportunity to as I know he’s just proud of what he’s done and he wants to share so I always give him undivided attention and let him explain all the ins and outs of how he build it and how it works ect this usually goes on for about half an hour. Then when I ask him to do something like get ready for bed he just dosent listen even though I’ve given him lots of time to explain this toy it would honestly go on all night if there wasn’t a cut off point.
So I guess I’m just looking for some advice because I’m finding this harder and harder to deal with. He’s an amazing boy and we love him with all our hearts but the listening needs to seriously get better. We’re at our whits end and we don’t know what to do. So any advice would be greatly appreciated. Tia