Outbursts

[sezmar79]

Hi, I'm really struggling at the moment with my 4 year old daughters angry outbursts. She screams at me and hits me. What do I do???

Has she always been like this @sezmar79 and how is she at school?

Could you tell us a bit more about the outbursts like are there any triggers that you've noticed and what have you tried so far?

She hasn't always had the angry outbursts. She can be a stroppy but never anything like this. The school have told me she can be quite off with the other children. A lot has happened in the last year, we've had to move and so she had to move schools. My step-daughter who is 5 also came to live with us permanently. They love each other dearly but also have the usual sibling arguments. My daughter is very head strong and dare I say bossy. I've stopped screen time at bedtime as I know that's not great but for some reason it just slipped in. And she actually slept til 6:15am instead of the usual 4:30am. When she has a meltdown I usually send her to her room and let her scream it out until she calms down then I'll try and talk to her x

How long ago did the step daughter come to live with you? I think you might find this is a regression as part of the changes in her life. I'd try and set aside special time for each of the kids to make sure they still feel valued and safe and at best ignore the bad behaviour. Walk away from it and praise good things she does

My step daughter came to us permanently August 2020. Before that she was this us every other weekend. My step daughter goes to see her mother every other weekend for 3 hours and Daddy takes her and is out for about 5 hours due to the travel. I wonder if because Daddy is out with the other daughter that our daughter is very confused as she doesn't realise that Daddy isnt with his daughter for that time. But I suppose in her little mind she just sees her daddy & sister go out every other weekend and she's not included. She is very much a daddy's girl. Am I answering my own question here??

I honestly wouldn't be surprised. Tiny humans have a bonkers way of showing theyre feelings. It might be a little much for her to comprehend