My 4 year old daughter never used to kick off it would always be her 3 year old brother who would be screaming (due to frustration of screen time and bed time) like as soon as my son stopped screaming like a mad little man, the day he stopped she started. She refuses bedtime I'm just about getting her to bed on a good day. She hates getting uniform on and then after school she hates taking it off , unfortunately I'm having to hold her to get her dressed and it takes 2 people some days, I have tried being calm and explaining the positives of school but she just yells and hits and kicks! If we don't have the food in that she wants she goes mad and won't eat. Today she wanted my seat and just shouted for it, I told her to ask nicely and she will get it, but she screams and started hitting me and kicking me. I just cried I know you shouldn't cry in front of your children but I can't take so much in and not cry. I feel like I have failed my kids and the neighbor's probably hate me for the kids screaming. I'm at the point where I'm crying myself to sleep. It's not a normal tantrum at all and I've seen bad tantrums, this is so hard to control yet shes as good as gold in school??? I've tried being calm and I've tried being strict separately and together, neither work. Please someone give me advice?! I don't want to go down the therapy route I don't have money for that and the free ones are no good. This is just a simplified version.