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15 month doesn't know name

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M0m23 · 09/12/2021 12:48

How do I get my child to recognise their name?
They completely ignore me when I call them.
Whether that be because he is playing or could just be sat in his Highchair eating his dinner.
Health visitor doesn't seem worried and Doctors checked his eyes and ears and said all fine.
But didn't do a full hearing test.
I know he can hear as he will respond to other things we say and will hear noises outside etc.
HELP.... I am becoming more and more worried and don't know what to do?
It's just linking to Autism when I Google it.

Has anyone got any advice, experience?

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PanicBuyingSprouts · 09/12/2021 14:55

It could be a sign of ASD but I don't think it's an automatic link Smile

I'd wait until they're 16 months then do the MChat Test. Don't do it before though, it could give you a false result.

As for the hearing, it can be deceptive. They can have difficulty with hearing and yet be able to hear some things easily. I'd ask the HV to refer him for a hearing test no as there may be a wait.

The ICan ages and stages can be a useful indicator of progress as well.

Has the HV seen him recently?

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M0m23 · 09/12/2021 17:40

Can I book a hearing test through the Dr's?
I feel like my Health Visitor isn't much help really.

He understands other things, just not his name.
It is strange.... just worrying why he doesn't respond to his name

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PanicBuyingSprouts · 09/12/2021 17:50

Can I book a hearing test through the Dr's?

Definitely. My HV was not especially helpful either.

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M0m23 · 09/12/2021 17:57

What worries did you have. When contacting your HV?

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PanicBuyingSprouts · 09/12/2021 18:11

DD didn't talk for a long time, HV really kept fobbing me off. I really wish I'd been more persistent as it's only now that she's being assessed for ASD.

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M0m23 · 09/12/2021 19:04

Ohh right ok.
I feel like I may get in contact with the GP to express my worries and go from there.
It is constantly on my mind and he is progressing every day developmentally.
But the no response to his name as he is getting older just plays on my mind all the time.
He also like to spin things and doesn't really like affection, he isn't a cuddly child.
(All autism traits....that Google says)
So I don't know what to think

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Hotpot33 · 09/12/2021 22:29

Yeah it can be a link to autism. Anything else though? Does he have shared attention? Initiate play or interaction? Call for your attention? Point to things he wants? Communicate his needs and wants to you?

Although, at 16 months, some of these things may be too early to worry about, but as long as he is showing interest.

Is his name used a lot around him? Does he know its his name? Does he have pet names to confuse him?

I wouldn't expect a 100 percent success rate of him turning for his name if he is bust engrossed in something. He also gets up to 3 tries of calling his name.

My son is autistic, but he also had glue ear.

So confused things for a while.

He could hear me whisper his name but a cannon once fired metres away from us. 21 times. A royal salute I think. He didn't even flinch or look around to see what it was. Glue ear means hearing loss of different sound waves. So a glue ear child could "look" like he is hearing fine. He could pass hearing tests. Only an ENT consultant found glue ear on examination.

Lastly, I don't trust HVs as far as I can throw them. Especially in regards to development. Go and see a GP. Likely they won't be concerned unless u have more than one thing you are worried about. Xxx

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M0m23 · 10/12/2021 06:58

He will point, he laughs and smiles at us, he understands some words, he can wave even though he doesn't do it much, he sleeps well and eats well, he isn't keen on cuddles and isn't a very cuddly baby, he loves all things that spin, he doesn't respond to his name.
But when we saw fireworks at bonfire night he didn't react at all. But can then hear a packet open from across the room.
So I am going to get his hearing checked and go from there.

Just wanted some reassurance that maybe he will just click one day and get it.
We are persistent with calling him by his name...but nothing.

Health visitor has been no help at all

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HopefulMother1 · 23/05/2022 23:15

Hey @M0m23, I've been reading your posts and wondered what the outcome of the hearing tests were. My son of 16 months also never reacted to fireworks in November and now, with similar concerns to your own, I am thinking that glue ear might be the culprit. I'm interested to hear what happened here with your child.

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M0m23 · 24/05/2022 10:39

Hey @HopefulMother1
In the long run I ended up cancelling his hearing test.
It was literally like all of a sudden he started responding and just improving with everything and now I have no worries about it.
It probably wasn't until he was about 18 months he started doing this.

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HopefulMother1 · 24/05/2022 11:09

Thanks @M0m23. That is interesting to know. 18 - 24 months seems like the golden months for development. Fingers crossed my end!

mmkn · 22/10/2025 01:40

Hello I am in the same boat . Hows your son doing now?

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