It's hard to write this because i feel like I'm finally admitting I've been defeated. I can't cope with my 3 year old anymore, I'm at the end of my patience (which was already thin to start with). As a baby he was a lovely calm boy, really no trouble at all. I was smug when others would say they were going through terrible twos and my boy was a delight. He was so kind, loving and a joy. But we've got to 3 years old and oh my how its changed...
Firstly meals, he is so awkward. I will cook the same for everyone but he is so fussy and will not eat / try anything. He will only eat it if its plain crap food like nuggets, pizza, cheese, toast. But even when he does have food he will eat getting him to eat its a nightmare task. It will take him at least 30mins to eat and during that time he's whining, moaning, messing about, up and down on his seat (never eats sat on his bum) and me and my partner constantly reminding to eat his food.
Sleeping, he stopped his nap about 2 years old. He's out of nappies too. He goes to bed fine majority of time as we've always had a nice bed routine. However if he's fallen asleep after nursery or in the car he will get out of bed a million times until 9pm when he crashes even when we've put him to bed later! (Bedtime is 7pm). He is then up at 5/5:30 for a wee which he'll take himself for. But after he's been to the loo he doesn't go back to sleep. We make him stay in his bed until the sun comes up on his clock at 6am but even then is a task because he will take the baby up or just mess about! I often wonder if he's up alot early than when we actually goes for a wee.
Then comes the not listening. He does not listen simple as that. I ask him to do things several different ways, explaining or threatening going to bed if he carries on etc but no he just does not listen. But then cries, shouts or whines at the me because he doesn't like the fact I'm basically saying no. If he doesn't get his own way he melts down.
He's exhausting. He doesn't play. He just lingers or follows me whining again. Getting him to play is a task its self.
He's bright and I can see him being very smart. He can talk very well and very independent. But he's just hard work right now.
The littlest of things upset him, like if he spills something, or gets a spec of water on him, if he can't find something in 5 seconds etc.
The days right now consist of us shouting and crying at each other and him going to his room and coming back down when he feels 'happy'. I just miss my boy. I miss what we had and how close we were. I want him to be happy but don't know how to cope with him right now. ....
Crying while writing this as I feel a failure and awful for even saying all this about him. ☹