Is this behaviour normal?

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We have a DS who is 26m and recently has shown some very odd behaviour when it comes to new things

Have bought him some new winter clothes/ coat & boots and he absolutely will it have them on. Keeps shouting no no no and asks for his old ones.
Have also got a nice Xmas pj for him and when it came to putting it on he refused and started crying and shaking.

He did the same with new jeans & coat.

Is this behaviour normal for his age? What can I do to get him in his new clothes. With this cooler weather I can't have him wearing leggings instead of jeans and his old trainers Instead if his new boots 😭. Feeling like such a failure, none of my friend's DC do this

If none of your DF's DC do this, it sounds like it's worth doing the MChat Test abs seeing how he gets on.

The other thing you could try is returning the items and going with him to the shops to let him choose, although perhaps just offering him a "toddler's choice" of just two coats.

I agree with @PanicBuyingSprouts that it would be worth doing the MChat just in case it's part of a bigger picture, but it's also not unusual for toddlers to prefer the familiar (although your son does sound like his preferences are at the stronger end of the spectrum).

A few things that might help: Leave the new things out so they become familiar. If he has a large teddy or other cuddly, I might go so far as to put the shirts on the toy (maybe even get him to help you) so teddy can hang out showing off the new clothes. Might work for the boots as well, depending on the cuddly, and DS might find that quite funny, teddy stomping round in boots. Ds and teddy swapping clothes might also be quite funny. Funny usually helps.

We use 'toddler's choice' a lot – which shirt, which trousers, shoes first or coat first, etc. It doesn't always work, but it very often does. It's certainly worth trying with buying new things. (The first new shoes my DD wore without fuss were ones she'd 'chosen'.) I'd also cater to his interests if you can in terms of colours and patterns – it increases the incentive to try the new things.

Washing the clothes a few times to make them softer and more familiar in smell might help. I'd also consider joggers rather than jeans, more comfy, but if he's refusing all new things, it might not be that.