help with 4yr old tantrums & awfulness

[mylittleponey]

what can I do - my dd who's 4 can behave so badly.

Today coming home from school she was screaming and kicking the carseats. She reached over and started kicking and hitting me as well. I had to stop the car as it was dangerous to drive. Just one of many difficult behaviour moments. She's well behaved at school though.

She can be unreasonable about anything at anytime. She screams, shouts, refuses to cooperate.

It's making me so upset now. I've tried listening, ignoring, threating no Father xmas etc (she doesn't care), star charts, rewards, no rewards.

Just sending you sympathy really - dd1 is 4 in January. We get a lot of "backchat" at the moment and major meltdowns.

For example today I took her to a soft play and when she had her drink mean,cruel mummy didn't get a straw. At this stage I was trying to feed a hungry dd2. In the end I just said fine, carry on screaming but if you do we are going home. I meant it and she realised I did on this occasion!

At pre-school they love her as she is so co operative!

DS (also 4 and in reception) is absolutely knackered now its getting to the end of term. When he is tired he gets giddy and silly - and he is also reacting to being somewhat constrained in school all day. He often has a low blood sugar when I pick him up (he doesn't eat much lunch, and frequently has had nothing to drink since morning milk)which makes his behaviour worse.
Giving him some fruit as soon as he appears at the class door, and then letting him run off some steam seems to help a bit. I'm just looking forward to two weeks holiday, and hoping he will settle down.

I send dd1 our with her dad for a good run out in the park (a bit like a mischevious puppy). Even if it doesn't help her behaviour (I think it does a bit) I get a break with the baby while they are out.

thanks for replying

Interesting Donk. My dd is 41/2 and I think this first experience of full time school has completely exhausted her. She is pretty oversensitive atm and has spectacular tantrums-eg tonight when she asked me to help her cut her lasgne and I didn't cut it the way she wanted me too she went bananas. I sent her to her room to cool down.
I think just lots of love and attention over christmas hols little poney, and lazy days, too and see if their is any improvement. I will keep you posted too.
BTW Sometimes I think it is me - I am finding this age difficult- realising that she is growing up and that I have to adjust to her needs whilst lokking after her very energetic younger brother!

hoping the holiday will go well - it's hard work sometimes.

Good luck mlp remember- if you at home you can alwatys send her to her romm. Remove her from the attention if you can