does you lo completely igore oyu at times??

[bumbly]

mine is 5 months old and sometimes i call him and he completely doesn't even flinch!!

is this normal??

Bumbly, I've postd on a couple of your threads in the past.

I hope I'm not going to offend you, but I wonder if you might have a touch of PND. I say it because you seem to be worrying a lot about your LO, and maybe a bit over anxious, which could be a symptom.

I suffered with PND with my first. A first baby can be a shock to your system, and I was thinking maybe you could have a chat to your HV about your anxieties?

Regarding the ignoring thing, some of mine have done that at times.

My DS ignores me - he's 2 1/2 and it's par for the course. My 5 months DD doesn't. Was your DS's hearing checked out when he was born? Sorry, don't want to sound like a scaremongerer - I guess if he's concentrating hard on something, he just might not hear you, but I'd be anxious if it happened too often.

bumbly, I would agree with bumbly to get his hearing checked. It is quite a simple test - they put elctrodes in your ds' ears and make sure that all the circuits in the ears work.

Does ds wake up when there is a loud noise, like fire alarm going off?

Apart from that, if you put your face in front of his and try to engage him, I assume he makes eye contact and responds? If you touch him or tickle his feet, he responds?

second bumbly is corriedale!

hearing test fine

do nothave pnd

just have never had any contact with children before lo

My 5 month old does not always engage/look with me when I speak to her or call her - but her hearing is fine. She is very responsive to DP or new faces though. I think they just get bored of "mum" as you're always there - they don't even realise you are a separate person yet. How is your LO with your husband/partner or other people?

sorry, "look at me"

I see.

Bumbly, just trying to find out whether your lo ignores you (sometimes) only just when you are calling him, or in other situations as well eg when you try to engage him face-to-face, tickle him.

What is he like in situations with other adults?

Need more info. I suspect your ds is fine.

Sounds normal. They won't recognise their name as such yet and can be comforted enough not to register a call in the same way as it might startle a newborn.

You are always very quick to dismiss any suggestion of PND and you could well be right. However it is not usual to have such a degree of constant anxiety, even as a first time mum, and your threads seem to lack the balance of enjoyable moments ( which may simply be how you choose to use MN). Did you ever see a paed regarding your worries or are you finding that your ds allays your concerns as he develops ?

i prob am post natal anxious but not pnd

say this empathically as it is unfair to those that truly do have pnd like friends of mine

re hearing - hearing fine and he does engage with me - but was posting as sometimes he just simply ignores me and stares into space

i use mn to ask things i cant ask elsewhere for fear of being labelled - but am starting to think that i am getting labelled

so where could i go to ask all my worrying questions without being labelled?

your not being labelled, you are being cared about
undiagnosed pnd is a terridying thing

Now that you have said that you feel fine then everyone will stop worrying

ask away all your questions

both my ds's did this, ds1 more than ds2. I have to admit to being worried about autism with ds1 at the time - as was my mum when I eventually mentioned it to her. However it seems like thats what he did. he is now 5y and completely fine (well as fine as a 5yo can be!).

No of course MN is the right place to ask such questions. However you might benefit from also posting about the happier times you share too , so you have something positive to reflect on when you are less sure. Do you post on the relevant Post Natal Club thread ? It might help to hear the range of "normal" development in similar aged babies, anticipate what might be to come and have mutual support.

To be completely honest
Why would a 5 month old answer to his name??
He probably doesn't know his name and about the not even flinching he is now used to lots of sounds and things so doesn't feel any surprise.

don't babies still have muffled hearing up to a point? E.g. can hoover round them and they don't even wake up - but after a point suddenly are more aware of noises and things start to alarm them. can't remember what that age is though, sorry