Hi,
I am at my wits end with my 8 year olds behaviour. He never listens to a word I say and typically does the complete opposite. It’s been like this for years but it has got to the stage that he is now making me physically ill. I have spoken to the school and he appears to be fine their which is good but home life is just terrible,
Today I picked him up from after school club with his brother and the first thing he did was reach over and hit his brother as he was not happy he was sitting in the front. I have to split the boys up in the car as if they were both in the back he would fight the full way home. It was my youngest turn to sit in the front but my 8 year old refused to listen. Then as soon as we walked in the house he went for him again. I tried to stay calm and asked him to go to his room but he kept going for his brother. My 6 year old then started to fight back and I honestly don’t blame him as he has put up with this behaviour for years.
Anyway I had to physically drag my 8 year off his brother which I felt awful about and escorted him up to his room. Two minutes later he ran back downstairs and was rolling about on top of his brother again. I once again asked him to get off and again he never listened and I had to pull him off. Today was a particular bad day but rarely a week goes by where I don’t have instances like this.
I have removed all his privileges (iPad, x box, etc) but I just feel so drained. I get very little support and I just feel like I can’t cope any more. He honestly makes my life miserable. My youngest is so well behaved and I try to be a good parent but they are no reasoning with my 8 year old. Some nights he will spend 1 hour arguing with me over homework which would take 5 minutes.
Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated.