Fed up with my 3.2 yrs old DD.....she is not listening anymore

[MerryBiglipsmas]

as it was more or less since she turned 3 (and also she started preschool at the same time) as she had stopped listening to us full stop. Plus we took the safety gates off too

She ran out to a busy road a twice this week, we are forever telling her to get out of that room, mainly the computer room as there is lots of paperwork on the desk. And the final straw that was yesterday that we bought a massager seat worth £150.00...weve bought it last Sunday and now its broke!!! as teh wire was wrapped around the bottom of the swivel chair. We've told her a numerous of times to keep out of the computer room. (i didnt know she had been on the swivel chair, i think i was upstairs onthe loo or getting ready to go out)

Now the safety gates are back on in teh hall way for DD to keep out as it doesnt fit on the computers room door as its narrow.

Dp said that the gate staying on till she learn how to do as she is told.

im just getting fed up

i know its all part of the norm

but its driving me crackers!!

or should i put a lock on the computer room door?? as i dont really want teh gate up

my ds is 2.9 and has selective hearing. he doesn't pay any attention i do the whole on my knees looking in the eye don't do that thing and ... nothing. he doesn't listen unless i shout and i don't want to be that person who shouts all the time. i even say can you hear me? and he says no or yes and still carries on... what do you do?

on your question.. a lock would mark the door?

Anything you really care about put where she can't get it. Get a lock for the door or put the gate on if that's the only way. Talk to her and explain but don't expect too much at this age.
Running out into the road, get reins until she's a bit older and more responsive.
It's frustrating but try to have patience, she will grow out of it.

She's only three, I think you are expecting way too much if you think she should always remember that she can't go in the copmputer room. If you don't want her getting to something it's far easier to put it out of the way or lock the door, three year olds are not good at remembering instructions, especially what are (to them) arbitrary.

You can't blame her for the swivel chair incedent either, what three year old wouldn't want to go on a swivel chair, especially a new one, that way just waiting there invitingly???

Sorry, I don't mean to sound harsh, but I think you are expecting too much. Make life easier on yourself by making sure she can't get anything you don't want her t o get, instead of telling her not to.

yes i know she is only 3 as its my dp expects alot from our DD which we had an argument a few weeks back after taking the gates off as dd wasnt doing as she was told. And yes the swivel chair is inviting too.

i did put the braces back on her a few days ago and was ok but she does my back in!!! as she is 41lbs...so hence thats why weve got the massager.

weve decided just to buy a lock for the door and take the gates off.

aww bls unforunately it is completely normal..DS is going through a selective hearing stage at the moment and being quite defiant..however it will only last a month or so then he will be back to normal. A few weeks ago it was dd1 who was doing it so swings in roundabouts

I think you've done the right thing there Merry - three is still very young indeed and having a lock on a door is a very sensible solution to making all your lives easier. If there are things children shouldn't have access to, you do have to take away the access rather than put all the responsibility on to your parenting or the child's ability to comply; that is just expecting too much all round.

I agree that wearing reins when out is often a necessity with this age group - not at all unusual.