20 month old not sleeping through night

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My 20 month old is still waking in the night.
I guess it could be worse but at 11 each night she starts crying, we give her a milk and she asks to come in bed (there is a double bed in her room).

Because we are so tired, we just take her in that bed and sleep with her. Generally she does go straight back to sleep but sometimes she's whining on and off for hours.

She is the sort of baby that cries and screams and wouldn't back down and go to sleep easily if we tried to leave her in the cot.

Any ideas or should I just suck it up as I guess it could be worse. Just a bit of a nightmare as I also have a 4 year old who wants a lot of attention from a knackered mum!!

No advice but same here at 22 months. Every night between 1 and 3am. Wants bottle of milk. Then falls asleep again. Sometimes in our bed sometimes I manage to put her back into her cot.
This started at 16.months and is killing me

Without being too blunt, sounds entirely normal to me (she said lying in bed next to her sleeping three year old) 🙄

@Felinewoman It is so draining! I keep thinking when is she going to pack this in but I think she's in such a routine. She knows if she wakes up at 11 ish that she will get a milk and that I go in to the bed with her.

I tried not to go in the bed with her last night and she screamed her head off for about 5 minutes and I had to give in. She started shouting that she'd done a poo because o guess she knows I will go in (even though she hadn't done a poo!).

@Mattieandmummy I was worried it might be normal 😩. I lucked out with my first as she slept through the night from 6 months old.

I just don't know what to do to get her to sleep all night. I work full time with 2 kids, I just can't have her waking up any more. I'm slowly losing the plot. She sang to me for an hour and a half at 1am last night 😩.

Any tips on how I can sort this out would be great.

Sounds like split nights.... Ultimately just a phase although a painful one in my experience. Sorry no hints and tricks, we gritted our teeth and did shifts either each one took an alternative night or my DD would only have me my DH would get her up, do breakfast etc whilst I caught up on a bit of sleep.

Oh goodness, this is also us atm! I am hoping it's a phase! Have been on Hannah Costello yummy babies Facebook group and thinking of trying the technique to leave in cot at some point, but need to grow a pair lol!

We’re the same. 20mo, wakes between 11-1 and ends up in our bed, feel like I should do something about it but no energy and just don’t think anything would actually ever work.

Yes went through this when I decide to night wean at 26 months. Lots of waking. I would give her half a banana but I think she started waking for the banana. So in the end there was only water on offer (and cuddles obviously). Her cot was right next to our bed so I did also insist she stays in the cot. Can you gradually reduce the milk and eventually just offer water instead?
Good idea doing shifts.
We still haven’t moved her out of our room now (3 years old) but when she’s in with us she sleeps right through. We tried moving her out and she woke earlier and earlier to come back in our bed. I think they just want to be near us. So that’s our next challenge!

My 28 month old wakes regularly and always has. I've just accepted that's the way it is. X