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18mo hates my MIL

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Carysmatic · 16/11/2021 14:26

My LG can not stand my MIL and we can't understand why? She's absolutely fine with everyone else in our family, at first we thought it was just pandemic baby, shy of strangers etc (as we were unable mix much in her first 6months of life) but she cries every time my MIL goes near her! We've spent a lot of time with my husbands family, even going on holiday with them and had really hoped she'd warm up to my MIL if she was spending a lot of time with her but it's not getting any better. She covers her face when she sees her which is what she does when she's scared of something. She doesn't do this with anyone else! She's fine with my FIL and absolutely adores my mum and step dad as well as all of her aunts and uncles. I just don't know what to do anymore as I'm now at the point where I want to avoid seeing my MIL because I hate putting my LG through the stress and trauma of seeing her. I can also see how much it's upsetting my MIL who is actually a really nice woman who I get on with really well. Had anyone else experienced their child taking a dislike to a specific person and is there anything I can do to help the situation?

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PingedPotato · 16/11/2021 15:03

Does she wear really strong perfume or insist on hugging her when maybe they don't want a hug?

Carysmatic · 16/11/2021 15:06

No she doesn't really wear perfume and she's fairly good at respecting her boundaries too

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Mattieandmummy · 18/11/2021 05:37

My DD hated my DH's youngest sister from six months to at least 20 months, would just cry if her aunt even spoke to her. No reason why that we could discover and definitely no concerns on safeguarding or anything like that. We didn't push it although it definitely put a strain on things and one day at around 2 years her hated auntie became her favourite auntie and still is at three years. 🤷

Carysmatic · 18/11/2021 09:00

Well that's reassuring, I'm hoping it's just a random thing that she will just get over eventually. My nephew who is nearly four loves her, she's his favourite grandparent and she honestly is the sweetest woman so it's really strange. Fingers crossed something similar happens with us and she'll suddenly just like her 🤞🏻

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Vicky1989x · 18/11/2021 21:36

My DD didn’t like my MIL either. Neither did her cousin funnily enough but he loves her now! I’ve had to start leaving my DD with my MIL whilst I work and she’s fine with her now. I’m sure your DD will warm up to her eventually!

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