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4 year old still not sleeping and waking new born baby

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Florence14 · 10/11/2021 09:35

I really need some advice. I have a 3 week old daughter and my elder daughter who turned 4 two weeks ago. I am really struggling with my 4 year old as she has always come into my bed if she wants to. We moved area in April and I was pregnant and commuting along way to work each day so she became anxious and wanted to sleep with me each night (starts in own cuddles to sleep.) Also in our new house she’s on her own floor ( can’t change this.) Anyway if she just came into my room and slept that would be okay but she is coming into my room saying mummy I’m not sleeping I won’t close my eyes and this goes on for an hour. I take telly away have a reward charts and really focus on the positives but nothing is working. I don’t want to reject her she’s my world but we can’t carry on like this. Should we be harsh and just stay outside her room and say we love her or roll with it. Last thing I want to do is traumatise her she’s bright and very sensitive.

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Chubbycatt · 11/11/2021 08:23

Try taking her back and giving her a hug. Then if she comes back in, take her back and give her a rub on the back. Next time just a pat on the back. I wouldn't talk to her. After a few nights of doing this she'll learn to self soothe.

Whatever you decide to try it will take at least a few nights to work, so you've got to be commited to doing it.

Good luck

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