she has been a bit poorly with a fluey cold, better a bit now but just really grotty, crying screaming whingeing, hanging onto me whilst doing these things and its really really getting me down. its been over a week now and am losing the will to live . she has been excited for several weeks now about going to her best friends house today for her birthday party, and she spoiled it totally by screaming not playing wouldnt eat etc etc so we left after 3/4 of an hour. she is no better now shes home again. just put her in her room and shut the door now so i dont say/do something i might regret and because she threw her beaker of hot chocolate onto the floor and it spilt everywhere because it wasnt in a mug like she wanted and tehn she threw her sandwiches on the floor that her big brother had made for her. now he has come upstairs crying because he's having a horrible day due to dd and her behaviour and that he had done something nice for her and she just threw it on the floor. shes only little (nearly 3) and that makes me feel worse that its getting to me so much and i know shes only beeing like it cos she feels grotty but i truly cant take another bloody day of it. sorry for the moan. helps to let it out a bit.