constant accidents at school but ok at home!

[goldenochre]

Hello,

DS started school this year and has been thriving. Except for one thing. He has wee accidents there all the time but completely ok at home.

I think it may be just few days he came dry. Ofcourse I understand ge may not be reliably dry but this is totally flipped! To make matters worse, he some how manages to go under the radar. Teachers are happy to guide him and help him change, they've done that few times they noticed his wet pants. But he NEVER says he had an accident. If they didnt notice, he wont tell. He just let the day get on.

Prior to school he was at nursery and it was much better there. I mean, maybe one accident a week or something. He needs a lot of prompting if hes too engrossed in something so maybe because of that. But I dont know when this will all be behind us. I am getting bit desperate now.

Has anyone experienced something similar? When I say to him I am upset because you had an accident, he goes I cant keep my pants dry! I dont know if he has toilet anxiety or just cant be bothered, I really dont know :(

I think it's pretty pointless saying that you're disappointed with him, he's too young to let that have an affect on whether he does wee in his pants or not but it might add to his anxiety.

I'd make sure he has a wee before you leave did school abs talk to him about having a wee at break time and lunchtime but also talk to his Teacher about what's happening and see if they can keep an eye on him.

I used the word "upset" to see if that has any effect on him but noo he was worried about not getting treat lol. I am not personally upset but I just wish if I could help him more.

Everyday before going to school he does a wee and then before entering his class I remind him to go wee and please try to go on time, all very gently and ge promises he will.

Then at pick up time, his current pants are wet(or wet earlier but dried so it reeks) and there will be a bag of changed pants. And every day after reaching home we have a chat about going to wee on time and he says he will do it on time.. sometimes he says he can't make it :(

Today at pick up his teacher called me aside about his frequent accidents and she's saying she reminds him and ask him if he needs to wee and he says NO but 2 min later he's wet himself. She's saying he doesn't let them know and even if he gad wet himself he doesn't ask to change either. She told me to maybe talk to him about speaking up and so thats what I am going to do tonight.

All in all, I am also wondering if he's not feeling the need? I mean he knows how to go and what to do (he got poos instantly) but cant really understand whats going on :(

Sorry for the long post.. I just want to make sure I cover everything