14 year old so easily scared won’t sleep on her own tonight

[TillyDevon]

I’m finding this so hard as telling her there’s nothing scary doesn’t help. She already never watches any ‘older’ films as so sensitive and I don’t know how to help this issue. I’m never scared myself / she never sees anxiety around her or had anything scary happen.I feel bad I lost my temper tonight as so tired and she disturbed our younger one by crying and turning the light on about being scared ...!

I might be missing the point her but she's 14 and in bed before 9.45 on a Saturday night? Is that through choice or something that you enforce?

Sounds like she has some anxiety going on, is she getting any help with that?

She goes to bed early of her own choice as gets extremely tired. She’s prone to headaches if she gets overtired.

She has no signs of anxiety and full of fun and laughs during the day so it’s just at night but I do wonder if there’s a professional she could see who could help as I don’t want it to impact her; my cousin who is a grown adult has to sleep with a light on outside her room as gets scared easily so maybe it’s just a character thing sometimes too but I don’t know

If she's that tired and has those many headaches has she seen the GP? She may have something like anaemia?

Yes the GP is aware of them. She hadn’t had a blood test for a while though and that interesting you think of anaemia as I didn’t know could cause headaches

Thank you

Also think about night terrors. I had them young then resurfaced in my teens as a fear of the dark/waking up terrified. I neverremembered those dreams. They went away over time.