Baby crying

[em831]

Can anyone offer any suggestions/help/advice/anything.
My nearly 6 month old cries so much. Most of the day she is either loudly crying, grizzling or moaning. She is constantly moving and it seems like she actually cannot keep still. She only naps on me and this is a massive battle to get her to sleep. Most of her awake time is spent with her unhappy. This is really dragging me down and I thought things would be getting easier by now. I'm so low I really don't know how much more I can take 😔

I can totally understand that you're feeling low. Have you spoken to cry-sis? It might be worth giving them a call, they're open until 10pm

I remember feeling like this when my daughter was younger. Being driven mad by constant whining! It wears you down!

Could you talk to your GP? I recently went on anti depressants and had counselling. I hadn’t noticed I had slipped into a depression - i just thought it was normal to feel down most of the time? I feel so much more ‘normal’ now.

I can’t give you much in the way of help or advice, other than to say it really, really does get better. I assume you’ve ruled out the usual things suggested on here such as reflux, allergies, etc? If so, I really, really am a firm believer that some babies just find being a baby awful and frustrating. You could be describing my DS a year ago - permanently wired, permanently angry and permanently resistant to sleep unless on top of me. The first year of his life was probably the worst of mine, I don’t feel bad saying that.

He’s now a toddler. Still pretty emotional with a short fuse, but so so much easier and more enjoyable. He’s actually a joy for large parts of the day now - people comment on what a little charmer he is. He has a nap for 1.5h plus in his cot with ease. Days of with him are exhausting but super enjoyable, which makes it worthwhile.

If you are confident there is nothing medically wrong then hang in there, it will get better x

Thank you all so much for the replies.
I've tried everything. She's been treated for reflux and I've cut out all dairy. Im glad to hear things get easier as I really am at breaking point. Im going to stop breastfeeding in the hope it will help in case of any other allergies. Im also losing that bond feeling sadly 😔

I have felt like you did - just going through the motions - and feeling disconnected from my baby. It did get easier - and I have a great relationship with him now.

Is she definitely allergic to dairy @em831? If you are suspecting other allergies as we well has she ever been referred to the allergy clinic?

@SuperSleepyBaby
Thank you for this. I'm so glad to hear I'm not the only one. Feel so guilty sometimes but I'm feeling more and more distant and detached. Going through the motions yes. And just wishing the time away mostly

@PanicBuyingSprouts

I feel like the HV is just clutching at straws tbh. There's always been various things to try which seem to work for a short period. She's been on the waiting list to see a paediatrician for ages. Got an appointment at the allergy clinic but it's not until mid December. Really don't know how I'm going to cope until then. The nights are as bad as the days atm so there's no respite

Dr Sears has a theory that some babies are just high needs. Have a read of these articles and see if anything helps

[quote em831]@SuperSleepyBaby
Thank you for this. I'm so glad to hear I'm not the only one. Feel so guilty sometimes but I'm feeling more and more distant and detached. Going through the motions yes. And just wishing the time away mostly [/quote]
Oh lovely, you are honestly not alone. I can safely say I only just about survived DS’ first year (at best). I loved him in an animalistic sense, in that I had a strong urge to keep him safe and healthy. But I found zero enjoyment in parenting him and dreaded the days and weeks that stretched out ahead of me with him. I couldn’t understand how people were sad about the end of maternity leave - I practically ran back into work (and wished I’d gone back in sooner). It’s just so, so hard to enjoy and adore a person who seems permanently furious with you and the world, even if that person is your baby.

I hope you find some answers and, if you don’t, try and cling on to the notion this isn’t forever and it will get better x

@PanicBuyingSprouts thank you I will have a read

@AliceW89
You really don't know how much I needed to hear all that. Thank you ever so much x