Feeling like the worse mother in the world

[NAB3littlemonkeys]

Already upset about something else and now I have just smacked my eldest. Not going to bother saying what he did as it is no excuse for what I did. Left it a while and went in to talk to him. Told him I loved him and I was sorry for smacking him. He told me to go away and I don't blame him.

NAB, I have an unpopular viewpoint on this ... but children all over the world are treated far worse every day, and the fact that your son is so upset about this is a testament to how well treated he usually is.

You have not screwed up big time, you have apologised, and he will remember that.

He came down a few minutes ago and talked to me as if it hadn't happened. I asked him if we were friends and he said yes. I think he had forgotten to be honest.

Thanks coldtits.

Oh {{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
Tomorrow will be a better day!
Let it be for now. And just apologise again tonight.

well said, coldtits

nab3, sit down and have a cup of tea, slow down a little and start again. It'll be ok.

Sorry Nab. I get ratty too when under stress, mine has been shouted at a fair bit this morning too

{{big hugs}}

Yep, I go too far at times too and each time am convinced that it will do irreparable damage to my children and they will never forgive me. This has never happened and I hope that they accept I am a human being not super mummy and I get things wrong too sometimes. The key is to admit it.

Don't worry - you are normal not bad!!

...and I'll fight you any day for the worst mother prize!!

You are fine, you are lovely, you are just tired.
It will be fine. xx

Twinkly, add me in the the mass punch up about who is the worst mother. I will bring all my RL friends too as they all think its them too. Bring it on!!!

can I just share with you all....

I was having a crap morning trying to get ds1 3.9, but going on 13, and ds2 4 weeks at the time ready to take ds1 to nursery. Ds1 accidentally stood on my foot and I went ballistic at him. When we were on the way home, after nursery, he asked me how my foot was and I said that I wanted to talk to him about that as I had shouted and was nasty and shouldn't have. He said 'That's okay mummy, I still love you.' I then started crying (whilst driving) and he said 'why are you crying' and I said it was because I was so nasty and he was being so lovely. He then said 'It's alright mummy, you don't need to cry, it's okay, I still love you.'

....hormones, tiredness, irritablity but an amzing little boy

They are more resiliant than you think and they take in far more than you think about how to stress mummy out...

Same here we all lose it from time to time,its perfectly normal loving mummy behavior

My friend has just been initiated into the world of duel parenthood and is ashamed at herself for shouting at DS1 when DD had her up all night. I took they opportunity to tell her some of the things I have said and done to my children in the last 3 years!. I am sure she will do her far share of smacking and shouting. Agreed, they learn how to wind you up and what buttons to press pretty quickly. Me and my kids adore each other but they treat me like shit much of the time. Hey ho..