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12 year old DS strangled his DB

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Anon504681 · 19/10/2021 00:15

I am devastated and don’t know what to do, I don’t know if I’ve over reacted or under-reacted or what to do next.

They were squabbling in the bedroom when I heard my 9yr old crying, I went in and he told me my 12yr old DS had strangled him. I was furious, so furious I couldn’t even shout or speak. I just told him to get out of my sight while I dealt with my 9yr old. He was ok, but did have a small redness that lasted about 5 minutes.

Once I had made sure he was ok I went to 12yr old DS and really lost it, I didn’t shout but I cried which I think was far worse for him. I told him that he could have killed his brother and that I couldn’t believe he would do something so awful. I told him he could be arrested and get into serious trouble. I basically scared the shit out of him, he was sobbing.

Once we had all calmed down I did explain that he wasn’t a bad kid but he did a bad thing and it can never ever happen again. We did all have a cuddle and they both went to bed calm.

What now though? Is what he did within the realms of normal or is it completely abnormal? As an isolated event do I let it go (obviously he has a punishment, no WiFi or gaming until after half term) or do I need to escalate? Have I traumatised him by getting so upset?

I just feel awful. Sad

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FortunesFave · 19/10/2021 03:55

The reason you're so upset is that this was a dangerous, criminal assault.

It went far beyond 'normal' sibling fights...strangling is a very serious action to take against someone.

This reminded me of this case...America but still...some of the points are valid. A Mother told her daughter's school when he son tried to strangle the younger girl and the school brought in police.

The boy was arrested. wjla.com/news/nation-world/12-year-old-oregon-boy-charged-with-strangling-sister-police-say

I'm not trying to scare you, just help you realise that your strong reaction was justified.

I would seek counseling for my child. Immediately.

PanicBuyingSprouts · 19/10/2021 07:09

My first though is could he be watching violent porn?

FortunesFave · 19/10/2021 08:51

@PanicBuyingSprouts

My first though is could he be watching violent porn?
There was also a TikTok craze...
PanicBuyingSprouts · 19/10/2021 19:52

Ah i didn't know that Fortunes

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