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does my ds have adhd??

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lu9months · 09/12/2007 19:00

my 5 year old is so 'hyper' all the time, cant sit still or be quiet. he interrupts conversations, and doesnt listen at all.he blurts out inappropriate words,or shouts out rude comments. it is wearing me out. he seems to be doing ok at school, though he rushes things and has messy handwriting apparently. I am loath to ask the GP for help for fear someone will label him, but dont know how much more I can take, and I worry for him. he has friends, but they find him hard going, and avoid him at times.any advice?

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NotEvenHopingForAWhiteXmas · 09/12/2007 19:05

Have a word with the SENCO at school and see if they've noticed. For ADHD to be dx, the problems have to exist in more than one setting, ie home and school.

"not a label but a signpost"

minouminou · 09/12/2007 22:06

as someone who was diagnosed at age 31, i'd have given my left arm (were it not too busy making "V" signs) to have been looked at and (possibly) diagnosed a good few years earlier
the fact that he's doing alright academically, but rushes ets makes me prick my ears up, but obviously there's no way i could diagnose over the internet and without a doctorate
do have a word - they may say to come back when he's six or so, but you could start the ball rolling
as for the label...compared to the frustration i've felt over the years....you can tattoo it on me forehead for all i care!
good luck with it all.

nannynick · 09/12/2007 22:36

What do you want to achieve... sounds like you don't want him to have a label, so a dx (diagnosis) won't be helpful.

Has school mentioned anything? Not all teachers are good at spotting things, but they can compare him with other children in the same year group.

How is his sleeping... does he sleep at night, or just nap and get around 4 or so hours sleep?

How coordinated is he? Balance, Walking, Hand/Eye coordination. Is he clumsy?

How much sugar intake does he have? Can you cut down the amount of sugar he has, thus with luck make him a bit calmer. Also can be worth avoiding as many additives as possible.

nannynick · 09/12/2007 22:49

Does he still have screaming tantrums, like he did when he was three?

What are you doing for childcare... do you still have a nanny?

I find that there needs to be consistency and simple rules. Firm guidance as to what is and is not acceptable. Running around the classroom is not acceptable, jumping on top of his friends is not acceptable. Running in the playground with his friends is acceptable.

Boys in particular need a lot of exercise, so try as much as possible to get your boys (I think you have two boys from your previous posts) out and about as much as possible. Even when it is wet, Splashing in muddy puddles is great fun for a 2 and 5 year old and will help let them release some of their energy.

worriedparent · 09/12/2007 22:52

I posted a thread a few months ago regarding dd and the possibility of her having some sort of disorder, so am following this with interest.

Minouminou, your post interests me in particular as your dx was so late. Assuming you are female, do you think this is the reason nothing was picked up when you were younger?

My dd is not at all disruptive, but displays other symptoms of inattention and inpulsiveness with inappropriate outbursts etc. She is 7yo and I finally went to the GP recently with my concerns. She has been referred to the community paeds and has an appt in Feb. I'm feeling nervous about it all now and wondering if I'm a paranoid parent who's worried over nothing, but her behaviour just isn't what I'd expect from a child of her age.

Magdeltwinkle · 09/12/2007 23:03

My DD was just as you described mainly at home. When she was 6 ( and also at 4 )a teacher made a comment that a problem had been noticed and she'd recently been on a course for children like DD. I was shocked and ignored it. I didnt want her labelled.

I persevered and if its any consolation she is now totally the opposite in her teens. A model daughter. Not sure how you feel about bringing it about your DS but I would carry on and see how it goes, if you dont wish to go along the labelling route. Just accept that some childten are different and perhaps dont expect DS to co-operate as other children do.

worriedparent · 09/12/2007 23:29

Yes, the labelling thing worries me too, but at this stage, I'm just wondering how she will be able to cope by the time she gets to secondary school, without some sort of support, as it takes her so long to learn things now because she finds it so difficult to concentrate. The worst thing I believe would be for her to leave school having not achieved her potential, if we could do something now to help her achieve the best she can.

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lu9months · 10/12/2007 15:14

thanks very much, it is all helpful. I feel better today, and think alot of ds' extreme behaviour over the weekend was made worse by sugar - had a lot of it! normally he is much worse when tired and when he has had sugar. will speak to his teacher, but they seem ok with him, so hopefully he will settle down with time.

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