4.5 year old behave at school

[Booksandwine80]

I’m starting to really worry about DD, 4.5.

She started reception in September, settled in amazingly well-is confident walking into school, we’ve never had any tears or her not wanting to go. For the last 3 weeks we’ve had reports that she “doesn’t listen” “refuses to answer questions” and has been found to be “messing around” in the toilets

Now, she does quite often appear as though she doesn’t hear us, particularly if she is really engrossed in something. Her hearing is not the issue, she can hear a packet rustle from the other end of the house

School have given her “time out” on two occasions now and I don’t know how I feel about it. We talk to her all the time, explaining that ignoring people is rude, telling her that she needs to make eye contact when someone is talking to her.

Im at a loss as to how to handle this?

Any advice for a stressed Mum please?

What sort of school uses time out on a 4 year old that is purely behaving like 4 year old do? There is nothing wrong with your child sorry not sure of the solution you need. Purely because I don't see the problem.

I'm amazed at the school, have the staff got any experience in dealing with children?

My DD was in Reception last year and her favourite thing was to go and play in the loos with her friends

I agree with PP, school should be well able to handle this. Ask for a meeting with the teacher to find out more about what’s going on and what strategies they can use to help.

Thanks for advice so far. I’m trying to tell myself this is just normal behaviour.

How’s it going now, @Booksandwine80?

@Rainallnight

Much better thank you! Was worried she may slip back into bad habits after half term but she seems to be doing well.

Oh well done her. Did school start to be any more sensible and supportive?

We didn’t need to discuss it in the end as we had no more “bad” reports. I think I worried too much anyway over what seems to be “normal” behaviour

She’s enjoying school and learning so will take that as a small win!

It’s a huge win! Well done for getting through it. I hope you and she enjoy the rest of the year