I have a 22 month old DD she is so beautiful and I love her to the point of bursting however I am at my wits end. From the moment she left my body she has screamed. This may sound like an exaggeration but she has screamed, cried and shouted for the majority of her little life. We tried every milk when she was small to stop the crying and settle her to sleep but nothing worked. We ended up giving lactulose (prescribed) which help her pass stools more easily which did calm things slightly for a very short period of time. She would still cry or scream for whatever she needed or wanted. I kept telling myself once she reaches 6mths it will calm down and then the same and 12mths and again the same at 18mths. All these milestones have past and although we have more sunnier days together there were new problems over taking others. Such as head banging floors and walls, hitting, throwing food at every meal, throwing toys, throwing herself around, trying to pull lamps down, breaking TVs, climbing on tables, climbing fireplaces, constant running and spitting out drinks just to name a few. This may sound like normal toddler behaviour but it is constant morning noon and night. She finally started sleeping better only a few months ago then regressed to 4am wake up about a month ago. She is back to around 6am now which I am thankful for. We have never been able to change her nappy without screaming and fights since she was a newborn we now change her standing up when we can which isn’t as traumatic for us all. Both myself and my husband work for ourselves but since having my DD (she is our second) things have really suffered we have had to take on staff to do what we are incapable of doing as she literally takes all our time and attention. She is still pretty much non verbal so we are working hard to get her speech coming on. She can understand instructions however if it isn’t what she wants to do she will scream, shout and roll about the floor. We cannot take her shopping or out anywhere as she will destroy anything in her path or shout if she can’t reach it. Eating out is a no go as she will just scream until we leave. If we go to the park with her in the pram we are not allowed to stop the pram as she will shout and get upset. We have tried nursery for a couple of sessions however she pretty much cried the whole time she was there. She doesn’t like to be picked up unless she wants you to pick her up she doesn’t like to be comforted with a cuddle unless she comes to you she will hit and thrash around to let her go. She will just lie by me on the sofa purely to kick me. Every time she does kick or hit I tell her firmly it is not kind and move her away and she will just laugh and try again so I try to distract her. She is so fast and opportunistic. If I don’t have my wits about me constantly she would destroy the whole house in seconds. I have another daughter who is 6 and I feel like she is missing out as me and her dad are just run ragged by this tiny person. How can two fully functioning adults be incapable of looking after this little girl. She is such a happy funny girl when she isn’t upset and but she can go from laughing to crying in 0.001 seconds. I just feel utterly useless. I feel like I have run out of ideas other than waiting for her to turn 18 when I can relinquish parental responsibility. Could it be ADHD? Or is it too soon to say? Any advice would be really appreciated. I’m sorry if the post is chaotic (like my life) I just wrote it as I thought of it