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4 year old tantrums at school

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Talkitout1 · 11/10/2021 15:49

Hi,

I just wondered if anyone has any advice or been through similar. Recently my little ones pre school picked up on the fact that she can get really cross and worked up about things that don’t go their way, or just whatever upsets a 4 year old! She started to improve there, and it got a lot better, anyway fast forward to sept and starting school, and it’s all started again. She’s getting really worked up over certain things, getting really cross and upset, quite prepared to have a full scale tantrum at school. The teachers have been great and said they’ll try and work at it and expressing feelings, I’ve had chats about it being ok to be upset etc.
She has improved, ie she can calm herself quite quickly now, but can still have one. I’m quite an anxious person and it’s just getting me down a bit, as I don’t want her to be seen as this handful, she’s really quite sweet. She doesn’t do it much at home which is why I find it quite tricky to handle.

Tiredness is a major trigger, and maybe just the environment is contributing too but she’s getting a full nights sleep etc. Lots of people I’ve spoken to have said it is normal; i guess I just wondered if anyone has been through similar and whether it improved the older they got/more used to school they get? Thank you in advance :)

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PanicBuyingSprouts · 12/10/2021 06:58

Have theTeachers said that they see this regularly @Talkitout1? I only have very limited experience with one DD.

Have you tried posting this in the Primary Education bit as well? You might get a few more replies. MNHQ might move it over for you if you ask them Smile

Talkitout1 · 12/10/2021 14:52

Oh thank you I may do that.
They haven’t really said, just that she can get really worked up and they are working on it etc, some days she’s fine. They always say they all have their own things they may struggle with so just because no one else is having these type of temper meltdowns doesn’t mean that nobody is else is having difficulties, I don’t know, just find it hard not being able to be there!

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PanicBuyingSprouts · 12/10/2021 16:58

They do all have something but she does seem to be struggling.

What’s your gut feeling?

Talkitout1 · 12/10/2021 17:13

Well she got a handle on it at nursery so I’m hoping when she is used to it at school she may start to just calm down a little. She was ok today, a lot of the time the teachers just ‘ let me know’ just in case she mentions anything

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PanicBuyingSprouts · 12/10/2021 18:30

So is your feeling that she’s just overtired? If so, I’d try some nice quiet time at the weekend and some relaxing activities.

If she’s continuing with the tantrums after half term it might be worth asking if their SENCO if they can assess her.

Talkitout1 · 12/10/2021 18:57

Thank you, I will

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