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13 month old development issue

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Ayd7815 · 10/10/2021 17:36

Hello all my daughter is 13 months and I have a few concerns with her.

My concerns are:
1. Problem: She doesn’t point yet. For things she wants or showing me anything!
2. Problem: She doesn’t bring me toys or show me toys…but will copy what I do with her toys sometimes
3. Problem: Not a lot of joint attention. Like 3 point joint attention… but she will sometimes try to get my attention by staring at me to look at her.
4. Problem: Likes playing alone… but does climb on top of her brother and laugh and tease him. She plays alone happily as long as I’m in the room. If I leave the room she gets upset
5. Problem: no words yet. But says ‘mum mum’ when she looks at me and wants me to pick her up.

She’s walking now and in in early stages where she’s learning to walk better. I don’t have any concerns with her physical milestones and eating or sleeping etc

It’s more her language development

She’s learned to copy some sounds we make and expressions but this is since 12 months.
She’s copies what I do when I press buttons on her toys. If I press a button or something similar she will copy this.

She’s very smiley and loves to laugh. And loves peekaboo. And will even do this herself.
She laughs a lot and gives good eye contact when I play with her or tickle her or kiss her etc

She’s very cuddly and wants to be around me all the time. She seeks me out and sits on my lap to play and always cry’s for me to be with her.

She understands things phrases like ‘come to mummy’ she responds to her name. If I point at something and show her she looks at object.

She can clap since 8 months well
Waves bye bye sometimes only.
Puts her ups out for me to pick her and if she wants something out of reach she puts arm out and tries to grab it but no pointing.

She babbles too. But not all the time. She loves screaming. (Happy screaming)

I know there are positives but I’m more concerned about her pointing and joint attention. Is this a warning sign at this age? Do I have to be concerned?

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DimitrisMama · 13/10/2021 08:56

I have a 13 month old. Sometimes feel the same as you but your little one seems to have learned so much and be progressing really well so is honestly say don't worry!
I know that's easier said than done, as I worry too sometimes. But then when my son learns a new skill & I realise his achievements and progress I feel as though I put too much pressure.
My son only just started pointing. He's not quite walking yet. Says Mama and Dada but nothing much else.
He started Clapping at 11 months! So they all develop at different rates.
Your little one seems to be doing just fine so try to relax 😌

Ayd7815 · 13/10/2021 20:09

@DimitrisMama

I have a 13 month old. Sometimes feel the same as you but your little one seems to have learned so much and be progressing really well so is honestly say don't worry! I know that's easier said than done, as I worry too sometimes. But then when my son learns a new skill & I realise his achievements and progress I feel as though I put too much pressure. My son only just started pointing. He's not quite walking yet. Says Mama and Dada but nothing much else. He started Clapping at 11 months! So they all develop at different rates. Your little one seems to be doing just fine so try to relax 😌
Thanks so much for your reply! It's really hard not to worry I understand. Thanks for your thoughts. I'm sure your little one is just fine too! Walking happens at such different rates too. Mine isn't pointing yet but has been walking for a few weeks. X
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Meg2158 · 14/10/2021 14:28

She sounds like she's doing fine 😊 our childminder said that she often doesn't see children pointing until 18 months. Reading your post helped me put some of my own worries to bed and made me realise they really do all develop at their own pace and how we all worry about what they're not doing rather than what they are doing well. My little boy has been pointing since he was 11 months and can say around 10 words, he can wave and clap but rarely does...hes extremely strong willed and never does anything unless he wants to 🤦‍♀️
She sounds really happy and content, my little boy has been such a grump since he started walking. Try and enjoy your happy little girl 🥰

Ayd7815 · 14/10/2021 19:38

@Meg2158

She sounds like she's doing fine 😊 our childminder said that she often doesn't see children pointing until 18 months. Reading your post helped me put some of my own worries to bed and made me realise they really do all develop at their own pace and how we all worry about what they're not doing rather than what they are doing well. My little boy has been pointing since he was 11 months and can say around 10 words, he can wave and clap but rarely does...hes extremely strong willed and never does anything unless he wants to 🤦‍♀️ She sounds really happy and content, my little boy has been such a grump since he started walking. Try and enjoy your happy little girl 🥰

Thanks for your reply! It helps to hear reassuring things from other mums. Yes our kids are all so different and develop at different rates. Glad my post helped you too x

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