Just about done with 2 year old!

[supernannyyyy]

Absolutely sick of my 2 year olds behaviour. Cry's/whinges at almost anything, never happy, won't eat, won't nap, wakes up 5am every day, won't let me leave the room, demands everything, won't sit in pushchair, won't walk nicely, runs off, no sense of danger. I am FED UP. It's embarrassing when we're out with family/friends as they all comment on it and I genuinely hate going anywhere anymore because I know it'll end up being stressful and is just pointless anyway because nothing makes him happy.

I could have written this! I feel the same. I honestly feel like my child hates me. He is constantly whinging and crying, as soon as you say no to him or tell him off he throws everything round the room or headbutts the floor or sometimes headbutts/punches me. My husband keeps saying it’s a phase and that he’s frustrated as he’s not really talking yet. I’m at the end of my tether, I don’t know what to do anymore

Didn't want to read and run. I have a 2yo boy too, and it's such a pain. I try to go out daily, for a long period of time and I let him play/run unsupervised (i.e. in a field, in a garden, in a park).

Also I stopped fighting him for non-life threatening things. No pants? OK. No dinner? OK. Basically I make life super easy for me. I offer snacks, loads of them, because he gets hangry too and that makes things worse. The one thing he does do well and he likes is his lunch nap, and he is fairly good sleeper too so that helps to keep me sane.

Just hang in there, it will get better and also forget the others. They are not your kid's parents. They have no idea what it's like for you. So my advice would be focus on things you can influence and let the rest slide.

My 2 year old is hard work too, no language yet and has always been a really whingey child since birth. I find being hungry and tired makes it a million times worse so I try and keep on top of that. He naps sometimes and that has to be capped at an hour or he's awake at 4:30am. He also has so much energy so my day is based around wearing him out at parks or soft play. Just keep remind yourself that everything with these kids is a phase and hang in there.

Another day ruined by DS. We took him out for a day at the farm, whinged/cried the whole time. Me and DH so stressed we just ended up coming home. I honestly don't know why he is so miserable all the time. We do everything we can to make him happy and it feels like nothing is good enough. I really am starting to feel depressed because of this. How can a 2 year old have so much control over us. Every day is a challenge, I dread my days off with him. Starting to wish I worked full time so I didn't have to put up with this shit.

@supernannyyyy that sounds really tough
Have you seen the GP? Could it be something physical bugging him like an ear infection/glue ear?

@JaniceBing hello yes maybe I should. To be honest my GP surgery are awful. Firstly they won't see him face to face, they ask for pictures, and when they do see him they usually say it's a virus. He was sick on Friday night but he's like this most weekends so I don't think he's poorly. Anyway he slept 6-6 last night so hoping for a better day today. Will keep you updated.

How're you getting on? Sounds a v similar story here
My DS is 20 months
The other day was a complete nightmare which started by me trying to put him some trousers on and then it was just a sequence of disasters from there !! It's so draining trying to negotiate / bribe him all day to do simple things like getting dressed!!!
It was better today as he'd slept abit more so maybe that helped

Well he's been waking up crying in the night lots and ends up in our bed which is fine but up now and it's 5.30 as I just can't be arsed with the crying anymore. No idea what's wrong. He is on antibiotics for thrush like symptoms but seems fine in himself in the day and has been going to nursery. Im exhausted. Just wish my child was happy.

Sorry you're feeling like this. Sounds draining. Just a thought...have you checked the back of his mouth for his first/second molars?

@Jsgdud yes he has got second molars coming and has been saying his teeth hurt to be fair x

Hi Op, how old is your child? Mine is 2.5 and very similar, except he's mean as well - pinches,hits, throws. I'm at the end of my tether.

@bookworm1982 mine is 2.3 and can be very mean - for example he slapped me across the face this morning but when we tell him off he is extremely upset so it's like he doesn't do it to be mean. Some days are better than others I must admit. We had a very tough weekend and the early wake ups aren't easy. But I'm praying he is better tomorrow as it's my day off with him. It must be an age thing. Have you had a 2 year health visitor check?

Sorry OP but your posts sound so bitter and resentful.... towards a baby!... You have to try and accept that this is your baby as they are and that he's not doing this just to wind you up. The more stressed you get the worse they'll react. There's no reason to let a 2 year old rule the roost by any means but maybe try and see things from their point of view and show him that you understand when he's upset/angry. It IS draining but it's a viscious cycle too. The more irritable you get at him and even at your DH the more he'll learn that this is how you're meant to interact with people. I think taking responsibility for your own mood and addressing that is the first step to managing his behaviour tbh x

@Jannt86 oh hello Karen I've been expecting you x

You can call me what you want. You posted on a public forum asking for advice about your 2YO and I'm telling you that my opinion is that based on the way you're talking the best thing you can do for your child is to take a long hard look at your own mood. Make of the advice what you want but if you can't handle a simple honest perspective then there's little point asking for advice

@Jannt86 telling me I resent my baby is not giving constructive advice Kaz x