I'm heavily pregnant and expecting DC2 any day now. I've been on mat leave a few weeks, so spending more time with DD than I have since she was a baby and it's just dawned on me how difficult she is. I don't know whether it's normal or me and DH are doing something wrong? She has frequent, explosive tantrums, mostly just at home, and mostly just with me but sometimes with DH. These go on for anywhere between 20mins and 1hr and for example she will frequently have 5 of these a day. She will also always wet herself during at least one of these. For context she's been toilet trained for over a year, but she's always gone through phases of fairly frequent wetting, mostly at home. She's been totally dry at nursery for a year for example and has never had accidents there. She is rude and increasingly aggressive to me and DH - shouting in our faces, throwing things at us, shouting at us to go away and things like that. She never does what you've asked her to do, you have to ask about five times and she will go 'im just doing this first' and keep adding things to the list, delaying and delaying, or she will refuse to do anything for herself and demand that we do it instead and start stamping her feet and shouting and then full on tantrumming if we don't, and I mean things she's well able to do and must do independently at nursery e.g. getting dressed, putting her stool/seat by the toilet, picking things up off the floor that she herself has dropped, getting a particular toy out etc. She won't play independently for more than about 5 mins at a time a couple of times a day (on a good day). She will just cry and shout and scream the whole time I'm e.g. hanging washing up purely because she wants me to sit right next to her the entire time she's drawing or playing or whatever. She is also a fussy eater. I know people will think this is related to the baby coming, and I don't want to dismiss that, but she has always been like this - it's just more noticeable to me now I spend more time with her, none of the behaviour is new. Is this normal? Nobody else I know has kids who behave like this for this much of the time and I just dunno what am doing wrong.