Why is he suddenly so naughty???!!!!

[Haribosmum]

My DS1 has always been such a good boy. (He's 3yrs 8 months btw). Recently he's been getting naughtier by the day. It started with ripping books and breaking toys (which he's NEVER done before) and now he's taken to weeing ion the strangest places like on his toys and other 'secret' places. He has got glue ear (and is waiting to see if he needs grommets) and I know some 'bad' behaviour can be contributed to that but what about the weeing? I just don't know what do do!! Help!

Sorry I dont have much usefull advice im having the same problems with my ds who is 3.6 just wanted you to know you are not alone

Toys that get weed on have to be thrown away. Tell him that and he will probably stop doing it on the toys .. other than that, he may actually be seeking to control something in his life that he CAN control. It can't be easy being half deaf!

Yeah we tried that one (with the toys he was throwing around and destroying as well) and ended up with nearly all his toys in bin bag 'to be thrown away' . All of his books are now kept in our bedroom and he is no longer allowed libary books because I can't afford to keep replacing them. I was up last night thinking about when he was a baby and toddler. Wat a sweet little boy he was (and still can be). I was almost crying because I love him so much and surely this change in behaviour has something to do with me? What and I doing wrong? I feel like such a bad Mum

Haribosmum- sorry no advice but just wanted to send you a ((((hug)))) try not to be so hard on yourself, Im sure its nothing you are doing wrong

Thanks SF. I'm just at my wits end with him. I know he's nowhere near the naughties child ever (LOL) but the change in behaviour is just so drastic. I feel like I'm shouting at him all the time, he really knows how to push my buttons! I tried a different tactic yesterday and he was even worse. I think I need suppernanny to show me where I'm going wrong!

You are not alone in this ! My dd2 is exactly the same age as your ds, and just lately she is driving me mad ! She has always been the easiest most pliable one, easy to distract out of tantrums, easy to feed, etc...she never really had toddler outbursts, just whined a bit. But lately she is a devil to put to bed, keeps getting out, coming down, or just shouting, being noisy and playing up. Last night she woke at midnight demanding water - we let her have a bit, but not too much in case she wet the bed - she then went beserk, screaming I WANT WATER over and over for about an hour ! We tried ignoring until she woke the baby up, at which point I got really angry, and threatened to take her chocolate calender away ! In the end I actually took her downstairs and showed her the calender being put away. She had a cuddle and calmed down. But it was like the most sweetest child was possessed with the devil ! So you have all my sympathies ! Hope just a phase !

Hey H'smum-How are you feeling today? Was reading somewhere about regression at this age and it being brought about by a major change/loss for them. Any other major changes you can think of (other than the glue ear?).
If not it could be the ear as Im sure loss of hearing would categorise as a major loss/change?

Not too bad SF. My SIL has taken BOTH the children off my hands today (more fool her LOL) so I'm just browsing the internet and trying to clean the house.

Someone on mumsnet once used a great phrase 'Threenagers'. I think it's a normal phase- mine went through it too. He's 4 now and a little (tiny) bit better.

It's here

It's interesting to hear other stories. My ds is not being distructive but has taken to major whinging about everything, and very fussy about certain things, must be the red cup etc. He will be 4 in January. Heres hoping this is a very short phase!!