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Reception child hurting my son

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Mummymummummum · 28/09/2021 15:27

Hi

So my son has started school this September. He was fond of 1 girl especially in our 4x 1 hour taster sessions at the school
I noticed the child didnt pay any attention to my son, he may aswell have been invisible so the fondness wasnt there on her side it seemed
I spoke to his mum and she explained her daughter has had trouble in nursery with her behaviour but basically they think it's a load of rubbish as they have no problems at home

So when they started school on the first day at pick up the teacher advised me the child had purposely over a disagreement hurt my son by bashing something down on his fingers
The next week same child threw a metal pot at my childs face and cut his lip. Only tiny but still.... again they advised anger related
Week 3 the school calls me to say my son has bumped his head as the child pushed him over over a disagreement

At the time of incidents my child has been really really upset. But he gets over it quick

I explained to the school that I have spoken to my son to tell him not to get into disagreements which could be leading to this. I think my son has been a bit bossy. If the teachers have told them to clean and the other child wont my son says you have to tidy with us. Then it happens.My son has just turned 4 the other child is almost a year older.
I've told the school of my concerns how the incidents are escalating and they have advised the child has additional needs and they are keeping a close eye and it isnt just my son. But they cant say much else
So what am I supposed to do? Just put up with it? My child is ok in himself he isnt upset, besides at the time. Its upsetting for me and concerning that it appears to be escalating. Also situations of the child screaming in mines face and pushing him with no injury and I dont think the teachers have noticed this. I will tell them but doubt make any difference
I havent told my child to stay away as I feel that's morally wrong aswell. What if all the childrens parents told them that

So what I am hoping is does anyone have any advice for me. Has anyone experienced this kind of situation and what did the school do?
They can say they are monitoring as much as they like but when it happens again after they've told me that twice it means nothing

Other than this my son is loving school and the feedback from his teachers has been he is doing really well

Thank you x

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Fulbe · 19/10/2021 22:52

No advice I'm afraid, but it sounds like the school is a lovely one and doesn't want to exclude the girl just because she is doing some behaviours which challenge. It's good that they're aware and clearly trying to make adaptations to help. It's also good that your son is resilient and happy. Other than moving him to another school there's not much else you can do. He will learn pretty quickly not to boss her around if that's the cause. It's hard but we can't protect them from everything, just be there for them as a kind listening ear and advisor.

PanicBuyingSprouts · 20/10/2021 18:08

Is there another Nursery class in the school or is it just the one?

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