Parents in law

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My partners mum and dad think we're not strict enough with 2 year old and that's why he behaves how he does.

Currently going through terrible 2s, for example when we're out he will walk/run off and laughs when we shout at him to come back etc. It is extremely frustrating for us but at the same time I think it's just normal behaviour for a 2 year old? We try our absolute best and he is reprimanded when he misbehaves.

But we constantly get comments how they're children never behaved like that and sat quietly until told otherwise. I personally have never met a 2 year old that would sit in one spot quietly until told otherwise but hey ho.

Am I being over sensitive or should they keep their opinions to themselves?

They need to keep their opinions to themselves.

Yes all 2 year old are like this. Never met one that wasn't. They are remembering it all wrong.

Your husband needs to tell them this and also that it is none of their business.

Parents often forget what their kids were like at that age and take advantage of the fact that you can't go back in time and find out if they are telling porkies.

Agree with PP they've just forgotten what 2/3 years is like and remember a much older child. No two year old sits quietly! Probably not worth starting an argument over it though, I'd just grit your teeth and swear at them in your head 😉

Should also say I have a MIL who can't keep her opinions to herself but for a quiet life I decided to grit my teeth and then do exactly as I wanted whilst mentally sticking two fingers up. Not very mature but it made me feel better.

They have 100% forgotten. In through one ear, out through the other

Ahhh thank you for all comments. Made me feel better. I really struggle to grit my teeth with all the comments but I know it's better that way. The funny thing is everyone else in their family tells me how much DS reminds them of DP.

My mother in law has been really over powering since I had my kids. My husband and I moved 10 mins down the road to a lovely house my family put quite a bit of money too and she said I was the worst daughter in law in the world as I made her son move to a place she deemed down market (despite not offering money and knowing I am doing 12 hour days to make money). She talks over the top of me when I am trying to deal with my kids. Also she tells me her partner is going to pick them up without asking me but asks my boys when I am there without asking me. Her partner and her recently bought a boat and they have been telling the kids they are going to stay and give mummy a break without asking me first. They have previously invited themselves on every holiday until I said my holidays are my time as I work so hard and full time and when I said I would be keen to have one holiday just us as a family she ignored my message and didn’t speak to me. At Christmas she was invited to the house and ignored my message and then told my husband he needed to take the kids to her. Last thing she just bought my son a birthday card saying happy birthday no 1 son. She told her son (my husband) she misread the card and thought it said six and not son. My husband always makes out it’s me taking things too personally but I feel like I am going mad as I know there is a strangeness there ?

@Cookie313131 your not going mad, that is fucking odd behaviour. I honestly think pretending you don't care works wonders though it seems to piss them off even more. Although I don't want to seem the type to let her walk all over me because I'm definitely not that person. I really hope I'm not that crazy when my son has a partner 😂

Thanks so much it’s so nice to have some recognition that I am not going mad as my husband just laughs it all off. It is just quite stressful as she makes plans without asking me and I know if I say no they can’t have him she tells people I don’t let her see the kids. This isn’t the case at all but I don’t want them taking them overnight which she knows which is why she doesn’t ask me she asks them and they they say why can’t we do this.