3 year old daughter agressive

[Magicmama92]

My 3 year old daughter really struggles with her aggression. If we say no she tantrums or melts down she will start to hit or try bite. Shes also doing this when she gets frustrated. So she has to put her own clothes on wont let us help then gets angry and freaks out when she cant.
She has multiple tantrums and meltdowns yet is fine at nursery and mostly when we are out.
She has been going to nursery 2 days a week three weeks ago she started 3 days a week.
Obviously we say please dont hit use words. Hitting and biting hurts we dont do that and use time out.

I really dont know what to do and feel like im failing as a mum.

I'm sorry to hear about how you feel. I can really relate.
My DD is 3 and we are totally pulling our hair out with tantrums.

So, no advice just sympathy! Hoping someone comes along with some advice for us both!

I'd be a bit cautious about time outs at her age as I don't think she'll have the processing maturity to understand the why of the time out, only that if she does x she is made to be alone. Sorry if that sounds a bit harsh, possibly not phased the best way.

Our DD suffers a lot with frustration and she's coming up for three so similar age. I'd say keep going with the calm don't hit / bite it hurts, keep
explanations simple and calm and try and support her. My DD reminds me of a pot boiling over - its like she just can't contain her emotions past a certain point. It gets better as they get older x

I meant to add, I try to avoid using the word no as much as possible and try to say yes but we need to do x (the thing I want her to do) first.

She also seems better with control over parts of her day so she gets two choices of outfit for the day, two choices of snack, drink etc - tiny things but it seems to help