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Shy, anxious 15 mo or something more?

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WashingMachine10 · 22/09/2021 21:09

At home DS likes playing with his duplo or his stacking toys or his books. Always needs me or his dad there though and likes to be touching us. He’s never crawled, bum shuffled or walked, however he has recently started nervously cruising round the furniture and he looks so pleased with himself! He babbles, loves a cuddle, can eat for England and has good eye contact. His favourite thing in the world is just being carried around outside, observing the world go by.

It’s a different story out of the house though and has been for months. For example, we went to a toddler group this morning and it just made me quite sad. All the other children were crawling or walking round in the middle. DS was stuck to me the whole time, mostly on my lap, facing away from the other children with his face buried in my shoulder. When they bought the big parachute out he started screaming and found it too overwhelming. I had to go and calm him down by showing him the clock on the wall away from the others (he’s obsessed with clocks, amongst other things). He sobs on being put in the pram and would rather I carried him home, which is impossible.

We’ve just been chalking it down to his personality but a few family members think it’s more than that. The lack of movement, the slightly weird obsessions he goes CRAZY for (clocks, circular road signs and taps specifically) and his anxious disposition. Has anyone had a similar DC and how did they progress through toddler years and beyond? I’m guessing I just need to keep observing as he’s so young now anyway?

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DominicRaabsTravelAgent · 23/09/2021 07:44

One thing that helped us at playgroup was getting there early so there weren't many people in the room at first. DS liked that much better than walking into a busy, noisy room.

I do think you might have reason to have have some concern over the speech and movement though, it's certainly worth asking your HV to assess him.

When he's 16 months you can do the MChat test to see what his risk of ASD is.

Mano2020 · 28/09/2021 15:44

I have the same problem with my 15 month old son. He is so confident at home but as soon as we are at playgroup or soft play he does not want to do anything but sit on my lap or wants me to stand up and leave the room with him. Im hoping more interaction at playgroups and soft play will help him learn it is ok to play with other toddlers and have fun. He is also obsessed with door handles Smile

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